A lot of people ask me what my biggest fear is, or what scares me most. And I know they expect an answer like heights, or closed spaces, or people dressed like animals, but how do I tell them that when I was 17 I took a class called Relationships For Life and I learned that most people fall out of love for the same reasons they fell in it. That their lover’s once endearing stubbornness has now become refusal to compromise and their one track mind is now immaturity and their bad habits that you once adored is now money down the drain. Their spontaneity becomes reckless and irresponsible and their feet up on your dash is no longer sexy, just another distraction in your busy life.
Nothing saddens and scares me like the thought that I can become ugly to someone who once thought all the stars were in my eyes.
this fucks me up every single time
I never expected this to be my most popular poem out of the hundreds I’ve written. I was extremely bitter and sad when I wrote this and I left out the most beautiful part of that class.
After my teacher introduced us to this theory, she asked us, “is love a feeling? Or is it a choice?” We were all a bunch of teenagers. Naturally we said it was a feeling. She said that if we clung to that belief, we’d never have a lasting relationship of any sort.
She made us interview a dozen adults who were or had been married and we asked them about their marriages and why it lasted or why it failed. At the end, I asked every single person if love was an emotion or a choice.
Everybody said that it was a choice. It was a conscious commitment. It was something you choose to make work every day with a person who has chosen the same thing. They all said that at one point in their marriage, the “feeling of love” had vanished or faded and they weren’t happy. They said feelings are always changing and you cannot build something that will last on such a shaky foundation.
The married ones said that when things were bad, they chose to open the communication, chose to identify what broke and how to fix it, and chose to recreate something worth falling in love with.
The divorced ones said they chose to walk away.
Ever since that class, since that project, I never looked at relationships the same way. I understood why arranged marriages were successful. I discovered the difference in feelings and commitments. I’ve never gone for the person who makes my heart flutter or my head spin. I’ve chosen the people who were committed to choosing me, dedicated to finding something to adore even on the ugliest days.
I no longer fear the day someone who swore I was their universe can no longer see the stars in my eyes as long as they still choose to look until they find them again.
Chris went with my buddy Gary to check out our land and try to hack through it. Gary’s one of my best friends but they both share a love of farming and plants and they’ve been talking about visiting the land for like the past year now so I’m glad they’re finally going.
Friday we were out and happened to run into Gary and our mutual other best friend Roger. It was so good to see them. Those guys are my brothers. I don’t get to see them nearly enough. We’re planning a jam session together. You should hear us harmonize. I miss them so much.
I had a weird dream about an ex where I told him exactly what I thought of him. It was very satisfying. I think it came up because Roger told me he was jamming with another guy who I briefly dated who was birthed from Satan’s armpit. It brought back some very, very, bad memories. I can forgive Roger for hanging out with him though, he doesn’t know what that cuntface put me through. I won’t bother to tell him. Just as long as he understands that he is to keep him very far from me.
Ugh *shudder*
I was trying to decide what to do with my day and then I remembered I have 4 episodes each of Scandal and HTGAWM to watch. Boom!
A desperate construction worker (Andrew Garfield) reluctantly accepts a job with the ruthless real-estate broker (Michael Shannon) who evicted him and his family from their home.
We just finished watching this. I would highly recommend it. From the onset you just know that the relationship between the desperate construction worker and the ruthless real estate mogul isn’t going to end well, but the arc of the main character, as he struggles with his morality while fighting to support his family by any means necessary, is riveting. Michael Shannon makes a fantastic villain, as always.
Fish wall décor, Blue wall art, Sea blue – Ocean Fish Embroidery kit – DIY gift, Blue white, Sea nursery, Embroidery hoop art
I saw this in my recommended items from Etsy and I think it’s just adorable… a little embroidery kit with these lovely blue fish. I think I’m gonna buy one for myself. I could do with a little hobby project.
I picked up a tube of Miss Jessie’s Multicultural Curls style stuff. I used it yesterday, slept with my hair down like an idiot but it doesn’t look too crazy. I think Kimmy mentioned Miss Jessie’s and it was stuck in my head. I think I’ll try more of their stuff because it doesn’t feel like there’s crap in my hair.
I guess I’m just reviewing things this morning. As you were.
I use it and I really like it. I mix it in with Fantasia frizz buster serum. I know a lot of curly haired pundits are very against silicones but they work for my hair. Together they leave my hair frizz fee and more importantly no stiffness.
I was a freshman in college in 1991. On the bright side, I probably know a lot of stuff that people born after 1991 don’t know. But they probably don’t give a shit about those things anyways. So, huh. Nope, I don’t give a fuck either. 😘
27 in 1991. Year I got married.
I was 29 in 1991
I was 21 and married with my first baby. (Not in that order)
27 and divorced with a five year old.
“1991? Who cares about 1991? [mental subtraction] Oh.”
Anyway, graduated from college and got my first teaching job.
I was 17 in 1991. I’m the baby so far in this reblog chain.🍭
I was 11 in 91
31 in 1991, the oldest so far – and today I learned what vooping is.
I got my license for the first time so I could drive 5,000 miles across the USA in a moving van from New York City to Los Angeles — a friend and I drove entirely on farm roads.
Turned 12 in 1991…and just had to google what vooping was. lol
Yeah, it was a good year for turning 21- I sure had a blast
26. New town, new home.
I graduated from college in 1991.
Also 17 in 1991, as Glitz and I are birthday buds.
And she gets to lead in a latina role with her beautiful Cuban self!
Cubans are hispanic not latin@
…Ah, yes they are latinx? Just like the rest of Latin America? Which means they can be both hispanic and latinx? Because to be “hispanic” only indicates that they are a Spanish-speaking people/culture? So I don’t know what else to tell you? Except to try informing a Puerto Rican, Cuban, Dominican, Honduran, Colombian, Mexican, Venezuelan, etc. they are not latinxs and see how the argument goes?
Apparently today is my one PMS day where I can’t get out of bed. It’s always just one day where I’m so exhausted that I’m rendered incapable of doing anything other that falling back asleep. Of course it is always accompanied by some sort of headache. Joy.
I am going to bring out a new line of shampoos and conditioners and we are going to dominate the market by the mere fact that our conditioner bottles will be twice the size of the shampoos.
Chris bought me two boxes of Godiva chocolates for Valentine’s. When they arrived they were all melty and gross. They still tasted good but they were a mess. He contacted them and they were very apologetic.
They called him while he was in a meeting and he got a voicemail saying they were sending two new boxes. And we were all like, why they’re just gonna melt again and get all runny and gross, and they said they’d already sent it in some special cooling system thing. We rolled our eyes. Hot Caribbean sun man.
So they arrived the other day in a big cooler and we just stuck the boxes in the fridge. I’d had enough of melted chocolates so I didn’t even open them. I finally opened one box this morning and lo and behold there they were, beautiful, pristine, unmelted delicious dark chocolate bon bons. I’m currently having two for after breakfast. Chris told me he’ll let them know. I’m very pleased I have to say. Well done Godiva. That is some great customer service.
Bertha Boronda (from the first San Quentin photo set I posted) was sentenced to five years in prison for “Mayhem” in 1908.
What’s “Mayhem” you ask? Apparently in Bertha’s case, it’s cutting off your cheating husband’s penis with a straight razor, disguising yourself as a man and fleeing by bicycle.
I guess it really was an age thing. Little girl downstairs rarely cries anymore. I hear a lot of talking these days and right now her Daddy is home so lots of babbling about her day and giggling as he makes monster noises.
I remember when my niece entered her difficult phase. Suddenly she was challenging authority a lot. Not a lot of crying but a lot of “I don’t really have to do that,” kind of stuff. And lots of timeouts. She really hates the naughty corner. I missed most of it. My sister and brother in law told me after she turned five she turned back into the sweet kid she always was, like a switch got flipped.
Well they’re expecting a baby this month so I guess they’re gonna have to do it all over again. And this time with a boy. I’m guessing it’s different with boys too from what all mommies tell me. Me I’m just here fighting up with some rings in the studio. That’s all I create. Not babies.
Aw! This warms the cockles of me heart! Seriously I feel all warm and fuzzy inside. I often wonder if I am boring people with the mundanities if my life. I’m happy to hear that you welcome it. 😀
My bench has never been this messy before. It’s driving me crazy. I’m working on too many things at once. I have to clear up some of this stuff or I’m gonna go nuts.
In the process of bartering a pair of earrings for a piece of art. I’m like the artist’s work enough and he couldn’t afford the earrings so I offered him a trade. He gets a nice gift for his girlfriend and I get a painting. Sweet.
Brass stamped earrings with silver filled ear hooks. Really love these. At 1.75" they make a real statement. #brass #handmadejewelry #stamped #earrings #silverfilled #statement #jewelry
<p>I’m so disappointed in Zoe, as well as the casters. If she had to put on blackface she wasn’t the right actress for the job. This is honestly so offensive, Nina deserved more than an actress in blackface portraying her, and in such terrible blackface at that. I’m sure an actual dark skin women could’ve been found for the part. Also Zoe has denied her blackness for so long and just recently claimed it to justify her role but we ain’t trying to hear that now. Truth is Zoe is a safe brown actress for the whites.
The colorism is real.
I am so not going to watch this movie. I’m really disappointed. There are so many dark skinned actresses with Black features that could have played Nina. Nina who was so pro-Black, to have been played by a woman to had to don blackface, this is thoughtless and disrespectful.
My body feels like I worked out yesterday. I guess heavy housework can count as a workout. I’m out of shape on both counts.
I had a dream last night where I saw this pair of very simple but gorgeous earrings so when I got up today I made them and they’re so cool looking. I want to make a whole series.
I’ve been making tassel earrings today with this new shiny yarn and while it’s very pretty it’s a bitch to work with and I have been cussing all morning.
I have new supplies. I’m always excited when I get new supplies.
I’m thinking of making either scones or cupcakes today or tomorrow. Which ones?
I bought something from a seller on Etsy a couple of months ago and never received it. Long story short, after I opened a case against them, Etsy refunded me the money and closed down their store. They were so stupid. I kept contacting them and they just kept ignoring me, but continued to sell items. Etsy pretty much told them if they didn’t do something to rectify the issue they would suspend their shop and they just ignored them too. It went on for two months, me and Etsy emailing them and being ignored. Why would you do that? Makes no sense. Whatever, I have my money back. Don’t shop at beadseller11. If they ever open again.
I rarely get to see moving pictures of black ppl from this early of an era in just everyday life. It’s so wild because my mind is telling me to associate these images with now but they’re from over 70 yrs ago
When I was 19 I got in a motorcycle accident. It left me with some nerve damage on the kneecap where I basically have no feeling and the skin is all numb and weird. It never bothered me but now that I’m in my 40′s the proverbial roosters are coming home to roost. For the past two days I’ve been limping around like an old lady. On my old lady knee. Well hell at least it was a motorcycle accident so I’ve got a cool story to tell.
The L Word’sSarah Shahi has been cast to play a grown-up Nancy Drew in the upcoming CBS reboot of the series. Shahi will play Drew as a 30-something NYPD detective solving more than petty crimes in NYC. Congrats to her and “yay” for more Asian media representation!
A regular client asked me to do some design work for him and I sent him the estimate today. One of the projects is a logo and I cut my price in half for him. He didn’t ask me to. But I know he’s easy to work with and will accept whatever I create. Plus he’s working on a startup so I thought I’d do him a solid.
When clients with startups come to me heart in hand bleating about not having enough money for marketing and asking for a discount I always tell them no. If your business plan did not include enough money for marketing you’re not serious about your product. Do some research and come back when you know what you’re doing.
I was just reading this post about how guys often cross women’s boundaries, like insisting they get a hug or a kiss from someone they barely know. And how so many women are terrified of saying no and appearing rude.
When I was younger I used to find myself in uncomfortable situations like that. And I’d always try my best to make everyone comfortable, even if it was at my expense. I didn’t want to be rude. God forbid.
And then one day I realised that if somebody had to be uncomfortable it was better them than me, especially if they were invading my boundaries.
And I started speaking up and saying exactly how I felt. I stopped being afraid to tell people to move when they were in my space, to leave me alone when I didn’t want to talk to them, and to push them away when they insisted on touching me. I am a naturally polite person but I have no issue being rude to someone if they’re crossing a line.
At first I was afraid that people wouldn’t like me. But what happened was that people seemed more drawn to me. They treated me with more respect. And I stopped feeling so afraid all the time, stopped feeling so apologetic about how I felt when people made me uncomfortable, and instead turned the tables on those who crossed the boundaries of my and my girlfriends and made them feel uncomfortable instead.
It may be something we acquire with age. All of the older women I know will not hesitate to rip a man a new asshole when he is out of line. Maybe we just get to a point where we have had enough of that shit. But we need to give ourselves permission to be mean, to be nasty, to be rude, to be unlikeable. It’s not just for us, it’s for the women around us who haven’t yet found their voice. When someone is crossing your boundaries it’s ok to tell them to fuck off. And you should feel good about it. Because God knows they’re not thinking of your feelings when they did whatever elicited that response.
“Physical graffiti” art sculpture made from iron/rebar /Mexican artist #DamianOrtega at the High Line in #NewYorkCity. #metalinspiration http://ift.tt/1TPjhAi
My head’s been feeling addled lately and I can’t seem to concentrate to make anything in the studio.
I decided to do some cleaning instead. Third pass on the kitchen terrazzo floor and it’s still turning the bucket brown. It’s like I’ve never mopped the thing.
This apartment has had a history of bachelor tenants and my guess is there’s a layer of dirt and grime on it that goes pretty far back. I’ve stripped it twice but to no avail. I get mad almost every day when I look at that damn kitchen floor.
“As a historical event, Bernie’s campaign matters to me. I believe that billionaires should not buy democracy. It’s morally wrong to give tax breaks to the richest and cut programs for working families. It’s morally wrong when the top 1% owns as much wealth as the bottom 90%.
It’s not just a political or economical question, it’s a moral question.
I’d have to say my parents. They made a lot of mistakes but if there’s one thing I can say they did right is that they didn’t give me any messages that being a girl limited me in any way. The idea that I shouldn’t be good at math or science, that I had to be pretty, that I couldn’t do certain physical things, didn’t exist in my world. I come from a family of very strong, independent women so I had great role models. And my father valued education and I was bright and curious and he encouraged that to the utmost extent. It surprises me now, as an adult, to hear how many women were given limiting messages growing up.
So you see that part of Rihanna dancing with the guy? That is caribbean culture at its height. He was dancing, she saw him, she went to him, they had a dance together. At no point did anyone think, “Hey we’re dancing, so maybe…later….” It doesn’t work like that. In West Indian culture, a dance is a dance. You can have that dance. There could be a girl jumping on top of you and you’re wining up on one another. In the wrong state, you’d get arrested and charged for lewd conduct or something. But you can end that dance and her boyfriend can be beside her, and you’re like, “Hi,” or you just walk away. Dancing and sex are tied together in America—if you’re dancing with somebody that means you’re sleeping with somebody. But that doesn’t mean that in our culture it’s the same. In West Indian culture, you’re dancing with someone because you’re dancing with someone. You’re having fun. There’s a beauty to the dance and there’s a beauty to the battle. That’s something they’re not understanding.
Director X On What People Are Getting Wrong About Rihanna’s “Work” Video (via platanerx)
I was watching Blackish the other day, the first episode, and the father starts off the story talking about how he grew up in the hood but studied hard and made something of himself. And I thought, “This is why everyone thinks Black people are all violent, poor and uneducated.” Because every story frames Black Americans as coming from the ‘hood. And dammit I know there are a lot of suburban middle class Black people. There are a lot of wealthy Black people too. And there have been since eons ago. But why is this the only story we tell about Black Americans? Honestly, before I moved to the States I believed it, and I knew better. The worst part is they think that’s universal for all Black people all over the world.
Terrorists with locked iPhones shoot people, and we talk about weakening or outlawing encryption instead of guns. Only in America.
So I’m watching 11.22.63 and I’m thinking about how many times I’ve seen the 50’s/60’s era depicted in film. People get really nostalgic about that time period but I’ve seen very few POC ever depicted in these films. And usually when I do it’s about civil rights. And it kind of got me thinking about the way POC get depicted in movies or in tv in general.
Our stories always seem to be special interest stories. They always have to be about overcoming obstacles, and struggles. Not just that era, any era. They make movies about White people all the time that are just about regular life things. But when it’s about people who aren’t White, the experience often seems to focus on the fact that they’re NOT White.
And maybe that’s part of the problem. Maybe that’s why White is still seen as the default. Because the White experience is always normalized and you can literally make a show about nothing and everybody will watch it. But when the show is about a minority that becomes the entire focus of the experience.
I’m not saying we should discount the fact that POC have different perspectives than White people. I’m saying that most people see their lives as ordinary and normal within the context of their environment. That they don’t necessarily see their experience as being colored by their ethnicity on a daily basis because really that’s just external. Internally what is normal for us is just that. Normal. Regular. Every day. And dealing with external factors such as racism are an exception rather than the norm.
I’m not sure I’m expressing myself properly but as an example I’ll give my favourite movie of all time, The Color Purple. With very few exceptions, this was a movie about Black people living their lives and dealing with other Black people. The narrative wasn’t driven by racism or segregation. It was driven by the very rich tapestry of all these different Black people and how they related to one another. It was about them. Not about how they dealt with White people. And that’s one of the reasons I love it so much. The story isn’t driven by the Black/White contrast. It was driven by the lives of the characters. Rich, diverse, interesting characters who had their own stories to tell. Stores that did not have to be contrasted against White society to matter, or to be interesting enough to be told.
And I think at the heart of what I’m saying is that it’s not just enough for us to include minorities in movies and shows. It’s no enough to have shows lead by minority casts. We still need to go a step farther and show POC in their own worlds without constantly contrasting it with the world of White people. Without constantly using racial friction as a prop. Our stories are fascinating because we have our own cultures, our own languages, and they need to be seen as normal too. Not just as an exception to the norm, which is still framed from a White perspective.
It’s not so much about the Oscars; that’s aiming small. The biggest issue, the biggest obstacle in diversity in Hollywood are the movies that are being made and greenlit. It doesn’t matter if you have 3.000 Academy members who are people of color if there are no movies out there with people of color to vote on. I’ve been out there for 30 years. I’ve gotten two Tony Awards. I’ve done Broadway, Off-Broadway. I’ve come out of Julliard. I’ve done television, film, all of it. But there is not the same opportunity for me. Even though I would say that, if given the chance, I could show people that I could do just as well as any one of my Caucasian counterparts. But there’s a glass ceiling for me. And so now I’m at the top of the food chain for an actress of color. I’m not at the top of the food chain for an actress. – Viola Davis
95: Left the house without my wallet? Yeah. And I felt really fucking stupid and lame about it because I went somewhere specifically to buy stuff, somewhere obvious like the grocery.
112: Broken a bone? Thankfully no
135: How many kids do I want and what will be their names? Back in the days when I used to fantasize about having kids and somehow thought I would turn into a person who would want them, I wanted to have two girls, Jasmine Maya was the name of the first and the second one was gonna have some hippie kind of name like Rain or Skye.
Thanks for the questions!
The real question everybody wants to know, everybody in the world wants to know: ‘Is Hollywood racist?’ Is Hollwood racist? You know, you gotta go at that the right way. Is it burning cross racist? No. Is it, ‘Fetch me some lemonade!’ racist? No, no, no. It’s a different type of racist.
I remember one night, I was at a fundraiser for President Obama. Lot of you were there. And you know, it’s me, and all of Hollywood. …And there’s about four black people there: me, Quincy Jones, Russell Simmons, Questlove – you know, the usual suspects.
…So, at some point, you get to take a picture with the President. As they’re setting up the picture, you get like a little moment with the President. I’m like, ‘Mr. President, you see all these writers and producers and actors? They don’t hire black people. And they’re the nicest white people on Earth – they’re liberals! Cheese!’
That’s right – is Hollywood racist? You’re damn right Hollywood’s racist. But it’s not the racism you’ve grown accustomed to. hollywood is ‘sorority racist’ – it’s like, ‘We like you, Rhonda – but you’re not a Kappa.’
To a relatively quiet and definitely uncomfortable crowd at the Oscars, host CHRIS ROCK
162:Is it better to have something amazing and lose it or to never have had it to begin with? I think it’s better to have had it and lost it. Life is made richer by experiences.
12: What time was I born? I was born at 6:35am
41: Have I ever kissed the last person I texted? Hah no, she’s my cousin, that would be really icky.
77: What’s a song that always makes me happy when I hear it? There’s a song on one of Yo-Yo Ma’s albums called Appalachian Journey, it’s the first song on the album, titled 1B. One day my sister and I were home and I put it on. Now the song opens with fiddles and it sounds like something you’d hear in an epic scene in a Western. It’s really upbeat too. And we stood there and started bopping up and down in turns (when I was down she was up and vice versa) and we kept doing it until we couldn’t keep time anymore and collapsed in a heap of giggles. Every time I hear that song it makes me grin because it reminds me of that moment.
84: I accidentally eat some radioactive vegetables. They were good, … Oh how odd I already answered this one I’ll pick one at random instead… Oh jesus this is what I landed on: 121: Lost my virginity before I was 18? Yes I was 16.
150: The meanest thing somebody has ever said to me. Oh man I can think of a few things but I would never repeat them, they’re too painful for me to even type the words.
84: I accidentally eat some radioactive vegetables. They were good, and what’s even cooler is that they endow me with the super-power of my choice! What is that power? Without hesitation my answer is flight. I thought for a moment if what I wanted was to actually just be in one place and then appear instantly in another (like go have dinner in San Francisco with my brother and then in a blink be back in Trinidad) but no… I like the idea of flight. I envy the birds. I’ve had many dreams where I was soaring through the sky and the feeling of freedom was the most intoxicating thing I’ve ever felt. So bring on the radioactive veggies!
1: Full name. 2: Zodiac sign. 3: 3 fears. 4: 3 things I love. 5: 4 turn on’s. 6: 4 turn off’s. 7: My best friend? 8: Sexual orientation? 9: My best first date? 10: How tall am I? 11: What do I miss? 12: What time was I born? 13: Favorite color? 14: Do I have a crush? 15: Favorite quote? 16: Favorite place? 17: Favorite food? 18: Do I use sarcasm? 19: What am I listening to right now? 20: First thing I notice in new person? 21: Shoe size? 22: Eye color? 23: Hair color? 24: Favorite style of clothing? 25: Ever done a prank call? 26: What color of underwear I’m wearing now? 27: Meaning behind my URL? 28: Favorite movie? 29: Favorite song? 30: Favorite band? 31: How I feel right now? 32: Someone I love. 33: My current relationship status. 34: My relationship with my parents. 35: Favorite holiday. 36: Tattoos and piercing I have. 37: Tattoos and piercing I want. 38: The reason I joined Tumblr. 39: Do I and my last ex hate each other? 40: Do I ever get “good morning” or “good night” texts? 41: Have I ever kissed the last person I texted? 42: When did I last hold hands? 43: How long does it take me to get ready in the morning? 44: Have I shaved my legs in the past three days? 45: Where am I right now? 46: If I were drunk & can’t stand, who’s taking care of me? 47: Do I like my music loud or at a reasonable level? 48: Do I live with my Mom and Dad? 49: Am I excited for anything? 50: Do I have someone of the opposite sex I can tell everything to? 51: How often do I wear a fake smile? 52: When was the last time I hugged someone? 53: What if the last person I kissed was kissing someone else right in front of me? 54: Is there anyone I trust even though I should not? 55: What is something I disliked about today? 56: If I could meet anyone on this earth, who would it be? 57: What do I think about most? 58: What’s my strangest talent? 59: Do I have any strange phobias? 60: Do I prefer to be behind the camera or in front of it? 61: What was the last lie I told? 62: Do I prefer talking on the phone or video chatting online? 63: Do I believe in ghosts? How about aliens? 64: Do I believe in magic? 65: Do I believe in luck? 66: What’s the weather like right now? 67: What was the last book I’ve read? 68: Do I like the smell of gasoline? 69: Do I have any nicknames? 70: What was the worst injury I’ve ever had? 71: Do I spend money or save it? 72: Can I touch my nose with a tongue? 73: Is there anything pink in 10 feet from me? 74: Favorite animal? 75: What was I doing last night at 12 AM? 76: What do I think Satan’s last name is? 77: What’s a song that always makes me happy when I hear it? 78: How can you win my heart? 79: What would I want to be written on my tombstone? 80: What is my favorite word? 81: My top 5 blogs on tumblr? 82: If the whole world were listening to me right now, what would I say? 83: Do I have any relatives in jail? 84: I accidentally eat some radioactive vegetables. They were good, and what’s even cooler is that they endow me with the super-power of my choice! What is that power? 85: What would be a question I’d be afraid to tell the truth on? 86: What is my current desktop picture? 87: Had sex? 88: Bought condoms? 89: Gotten pregnant? 90: Failed a class? 91: Kissed a boy? 92: Kissed a girl? 93: Have I ever kissed somebody in the rain? 94: Had job? 95: Left the house without my wallet? 96: Bullied someone on the Internet? 97: Had sex in public? 98: Played on a sports team? 99: Smoked weed? 100: Did drugs? 101: Smoked cigarettes? 102: Drank alcohol? 103: Am I a vegetarian/vegan? 104: Been overweight? 105: Been underweight? 106: Been to a wedding? 107: Been on the computer for 5 hours straight? 108: Watched TV for 5 hours straight? 109: Been outside my home country? 110: Gotten my heart broken? 111: Been to a professional sports game? 112: Broken a bone? 113: Cut myself? 114: Been to prom? 115: Been in airplane? 116: Fly by helicopter? 117: What concerts have I been to? 118: Had a crush on someone of the same sex? 119: Learned another language? 120: Wore make up? 121: Lost my virginity before I was 18? 122: Had oral sex? 123: Dyed my hair? 124: Voted in a presidential election? 125: Rode in an ambulance? 126: Had a surgery? 127: Met someone famous? 128: Stalked someone on a social network? 129: Peed outside? 130: Been fishing? 131: Helped with charity? 132: Been rejected by a crush? 133: Broken a mirror? 134: What do I want for birthday? 135: How many kids do I want and what will be their names? 136: Was I named after anyone? 137: Do I like my handwriting? 138: What was my favorite toy as a child? 139: Favorite TV Show? 140: Where do I want to live when older? 141: Play any musical instrument? 142: One of my scars, how did I get it? 143: Favorite pizza topping? 144: Am I afraid of the dark? 145: Am I afraid of heights? 146: Have I ever got caught sneaking out or doing anything bad? 147: Have I ever tried my hardest and then gotten disappointed in the end? 148: What I’m really bad at. 149: What my greatest achievements are. 150: The meanest thing somebody has ever said to me. 151: What I’d do if I won in a lottery. 152: What do I like about myself? 153: My closest Tumblr friend. 154: Something I fantasies about. 155: Close your eyes and think of five things that make you smile when you think about them. What are they? 156: If your house was on fire and you had sixty seconds to leave, what would you take with you? 157: When you’re alone in the middle of the night and you can’t quite get to sleep, what do you think about? “Going to sleep” doesn’t count. 158: What is love to you? 159: What is the opposite of love? 160: Is it possible to love someone if you don’t love yourself? 161: Do you believe mutual attraction based on mutual hatred is possible? 162:Is it better to have something amazing and lose it or to never have had it to begin with? 163: Do you focus more on the past, the present, or the future? 164: Do you judge people for what they wear or how they express themselves? 165: Do you believe in individuals over generalisations? 166:When you’re very scared or worried, what do you think about or do to help you feel better? 167: How do you feel about what happens after death? 168: Would you rather live a hedonistic life full of good things that make you feel good even if they’re bad for you, or a healthy life centered around treating your body like a sacred temple and watching your health as closely as possible? Or do you not care either way? 169: Do you think you can tell a lot about a person from the way they express themselves or answer questions like these? 170:Do you have any special or magical memories you’ll always have with you? 171: How would you define yourself, without saying your name or giving a physical description of yourself or your obvious personality? 172: When do you feel truly at peace? 173: Do you like having your worldview or opinions challenged or questioned? 174: Do you believe happiness can exist without sadness? 175: Is there a reason for existence? 176: Do you think the world existed before you did? 177: Do you believe people need breaks from each other, even if they’re deeply in love? 178: What do you find most beautiful in people? 179: Do you take questions like these literally or pick up on what they really mean? 180: Do you sleep with your closet doors open or closed? 181: Do you take the shampoos and conditioner bottles from hotel? 182: Have you ever stolen a street sign before? 183: Do you always smile for pictures? 5: Do you ever count your steps when you walk? 184: What is your Song of the week? 185: What do you drink with dinner? 186: What is your favorite food? 187: Which movie could you watch over and over and still love? 188: Last person you kissed/kissed you? 189: Were you ever a boy/girl scout? 190: Can you cry on command? 191: Are you loyal? 192: When was the last time you wrote a letter to someone on paper? 193: Favorite kind of sandwich? 194: Best thing to eat for breakfast? 195: What is your usual bedtime? 196: Are you lazy? 197: How many languages can you speak? 198: Are you stubborn?: 199: Are you afraid of heights? 200: Do you sing in the shower? 201: Do you think musicals are cheesy? 202: Is Christmas stressful? 203: Ever eat a pierogi? 204: Favorite type of fruit pie? 205: Occupations you wanted to be when you were a kid? 206: What do you wear to bed? 207: Who would you like to see in concert? 208: What was the last concert you saw? 209: Tea or coffee? 210: Do you want to get married? 211: Do you want kids? 212: What’s your favorite part about today so far? 213: What are you doing tomorrow? 214: What are you doing next week? 215: Have you ever tried sushi? (Did you like it?) 216: How do you like your steak cooked? 217: What do you like least about yourself? 218: Who’s your best / closest friend? 219: Who do you trust with your secrets? 220: Which friend would you go to in an emergency? 221: What was the last text you sent? 222: Does anyone hate you? 223: How did you meet your spouse / girlfriend / boyfriend? 224: Would you rather live in the countryside or in the city? 225: Ever had a detention? 226: Which swear word do you use the most? 227: Ever cried at school? 228: Who is the most intelligent person you know?
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