The other day I walked past one of our aquariums and saw that one of the black goldfish was dead, floating on his back all googly eyed.
I congratulated myself on noticing and debated whether to flush him down the toilet. I chose to leave him there because a) I didn’t want to fuck up the plumbing and b) maybe Chris wanted to say goodbye one last time, perform a special ritual, have a fish funeral or something (I’ve been to a bunny funeral so it’s not farfetched).
I messaged him at work and told him about it and then promptly forgot about it. Two days later he slyly mentioned that said fish was in fact alive and swimming around happily in the tank. Shocked, I went to check and there he was (I know because we had two black goldfish and they were both there, it wasn’t like I could pick it out of a lineup or anything). He then explained that he (the fish) had been having problems with his swim bladder (which helps with them stay upright) so he starved him for a couple of days and fed him a frozen pea and he was right as rain.
I decided on the spot to name him Lazarus. Nothing could be more fitting. Plus I like to name the fish (they always seem to die when I do that though) so that’s his name. And since I can’t tell them apart they’ll both be Lazarus. Lazari. Let’s see how long they last. I’m taking bets.
I am so tired of reading posts and hearing shouting in my head. Like, everybody is so outraged these days.
I know I contribute to it too sometimes. Sometimes I am the outraged person. Sometimes I just reblog the posts.
But I’m starting to unfollow those blogs because I’m tired of feeling stressed out all the time when I go online. Everybody’s always yelling in my head. I need some peace and quiet.
As I look back on my life, I realize that every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being re-directed to something better.
I always feel guilty when I have to retouch any of my jewelry photography. Then I think of all the shitty photography I see on Etsy and thank god I am a graphic designer. Bless.
This Is How Adele’s “Hello” Would Sound In Reggae Style
A brother-sister duo, Rodesha and Conkarah, from Jamaica have covered Adele’s “Hello” in reggae style and the entire world has lost their minds. Watch, enjoy and share!
I’m watching this show about tiny houses and this couple wants to downsize for when their kids go off to college. That is so the opposite of how West Indian parents do it. They’ll never sell the family house (where you gonna stay where you come home for Christmas?). They’ll invite you to move back in after you graduate and build you an addition when you get married so you can stay close. Then when the grandkids come they’ll probably move into the extension and give you the damn house just to keep yuh ass close. West Indian parents never want their children to leave home. Y’all have no idea.
According to my very unscientific poll, most of you ladies don’t care whether a penis is uncircumcised or not. Y’all just like peen. Mah sistas.
Chris bought me a cheesemaking kit and I’m super excited to try it out. It looks remarkably easy too. Maybe today after I come back from running errands.
The lady next door dries spices for curry on her roof. I do not like waking up to my entire apartment smelling like geera (cumin). It is too strong a smell for in the morning. I can’t wait until we move from this neighbourhood. I really do not like living here.
I listed something on my site yesterday and it sold a few hours later. That’s never happened before. Made me happy. January has been a really slow month for sales. Hopefully I’ll make some money at UpMarket on Jan 31.
Chris will be graduating from his MBA at the end of this month. He started it maybe 8 or 9 years ago and never finished. He had one paper to write. After we got together I asked him if he would finish it, if just for me. And he did. I’m so proud of him.
I just saw a post about circumcision. In the Caribbean circumcision is rare, but I remember talking to my girlfriends in college in the States and they acted like an uncircumcised penis was disgusting and gross. They also acted like they didn’t know what to do with it. I found that attitude so perplexing, because of course to me it was normal (I have a brother and male cousins- you see a peen every so often growing up). I never saw a circumcised penis until I was grown and I found it confusing because it was missing a part. I’m just wondering lady followers, what’s your feelings about it? Do you have a preference? Does it matter to you at all?
The only reason it mattered is bc as a mother I had a choice in my sons penis and whether he would have the surgery or not. We chose not to circumcise. I’ve been with both circumcised and uncircumcised and I don’t have a preference. I like them both. At the same time. Kidding. 🙂
**edit: you don’t have to DO anything different to an uncircumcised penis during intercourse etc. like why?
Exactly. By the time we get anywhere near them you really can’t see much difference cause they’re all *hi* anyway. I’ve had women tell me they can feel the difference. I don’t know how, but I can’t.
I just saw a post about circumcision. In the Caribbean circumcision is rare, but I remember talking to my girlfriends in college in the States and they acted like an uncircumcised penis was disgusting and gross. They also acted like they didn’t know what to do with it. I found that attitude so perplexing, because of course to me it was normal (I have a brother and male cousins- you see a peen every so often growing up). I never saw a circumcised penis until I was grown and I found it confusing because it was missing a part. I’m just wondering lady followers, what’s your feelings about it? Do you have a preference? Does it matter to you at all?
Ive personally never been with a guy that was uncircumcised so I can’t say that I have a preference but I assume that I prefer circumcised. Im with your girlfriends from college, I wouldn’t know what in the world to do with an uncircumcised penis and it has nothing to do with an attitude or anything, it is just not something I am used to or have experienced before. Thats not to say Im disgusted by it or anything because thats rude, Im not disgusted by anyones body parts.
I just saw a post about circumcision. In the Caribbean circumcision is rare, but I remember talking to my girlfriends in college in the States and they acted like an uncircumcised penis was disgusting and gross. They also acted like they didn’t know what to do with it. I found that attitude so perplexing, because of course to me it was normal (I have a brother and male cousins- you see a peen every so often growing up). I never saw a circumcised penis until I was grown and I found it confusing because it was missing a part. I’m just wondering lady followers, what’s your feelings about it? Do you have a preference? Does it matter to you at all?
When my dad lived in Barbados he had Directv and because it was the Latin American feed, many of the commercials were dubbed over in Spanish.
Yesterday I flipped through one of our channels and heard the same familiar voices and they made me think of him, and his lovely house in Barbados, and the times I visited him there.
And I realised that at that time I had no idea he’d be gone in less than a decade. If anybody had told me I only had a few years left with my father I wouldn’t have believed them. It would have been inconceivable to me.
And I just thought about how it all goes by so quickly. How little time we really have, and how precious it is. And that often we don’t appreciate it until we experience a loss like that, that changes our lives forever.
I never take it for granted anymore. Every moment I spend with Chris is special. Every time I see my mom I appreciate so much that she is still here. My family, my friends… I cherish every single moment. I try my best to always be present, always be in the moment. And just BE there. Because it might not happen again.
I just watched this movie called… I Miss You Already, I think was the name, starring Drew Barrymore and Toni Colette, two of my favourite actresses. It was such a tearjerker omg. It was about cancer, and loss and friendship and love and cancer. And cancer. And I know it would have made me cry before but oh man it was hard to watch them go through some of the same stuff we had to. And I’ve been thinking so much of my dad lately and I dreamt about him last night… It was tough. But I still really enjoyed it because the two lead characters were wonderfully acted. But man did I cry.
Teenager from India invents device that can convert breath to speech
A high school student from India has invented a device that can convert a person’s breath into speech, to give millions of people around the world suffering from speech impediment a ‘voice’ for the first time.
Sixteen-year-old Arsh Shah Dilbagi has developed a new technology called ‘TALK’, which is a cheap and portable device to help people who are physically incapable of speaking express themselves. Right now, 1.4 percent of the world’s population has very limited or no speech, due to conditions such as Amyotrophic lateral sclerosis (ALS), locked-in syndrome (LIS), Encephalopathy (SEM), Parkinson’s disease, and paralysis.
His name is Arsh Shah Dilbagi and he’s 16 years old. Gettin tired of sensationalized “mystery baby from a country where people are brown does a science thing!” articles. Use peoples names, don’t act so surprised when people of color are geniuses.
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I’m enjoying all the blizzard-blogging. I’ve never experienced a blizzard. Several hurricanes but no blizzards. Sounds like once you’re all stocked up on supplies it can be kinda cosy. Stay warm and safe guys.
If, according to Kanye West, one good girl is worth a thousand bitches, and if, according to Lil Wayne, bitches come a dime a dozen, it means that one good girl is worth $8.33 USD (2015).
thank you for this
I need the equation you used for this
It’s your basic equation substitution method. You simplify the second equation from Lil Wayne (the blue one) and plug it into the original equation from Kanye (red one) and solve for the answer (green).
“Super Dominica is a Carib super heroine with amazing abilities and powers which are based on the features and natural resources of the Caribbean Island of Dominica. Super Dominica was originally created by Illustrator/ Graphic Designer Albert Pierre in the year 2005.”
Sometimes I feel a little surprised and sad about the fact that I never had kids.
I always envisioned this future me as having them.
I just thought that once my life became more stable, emotionally, financially, relationship wise, that it would be natural progression. Even though current me was never even timely interested in parenting.
But as I got older, current me never turned into that future me that wanted to have kids. And when my life DID settle down and become stable I realised that I still didn’t want to be a parent.
And it makes me a little sad because I love children. And I’m very maternal. But I realize that I never wanted to be maternal on a permanent basis. I just wanted to be a good mother hen to my friends and be a great auntie to everyone else’s kids but at the end of the day I wanted to retreat to my quiet, peaceful, child free life.
I’ve been at the ministry of legal affairs taking care of some business related stuff today.
Chris and I got married here. Brings back some really nice memories. That was definitely one of the best days of my life.
Today however I’ve spent about three hours waiting in lines. Every transaction has taken about a minute to complete. But the lines god the lines. I don’t know why you can’t get any of this stuff done online. Trinidad is so damn backward.
I still have to come back next week to pick up some documents. Everything takes forever here. But next week should be the last of it.
The word “percent” split is “per cent,” as in “for each hundred”
Actually it means part of a hundred. As in 7% is 7 parts out of a hundred. C’mon man we learnt that in grade school. At least, WE did (all West Indians raise yuh hands)
I was looking at this post that had pictures of all these people with freckles, and it occurred to me that out of my three siblings, I am the only one without freckles. I always thought they were really cute and I always wanted a smattering of them across my nose and cheeks. But I came out with completely different colouring from them. Alas no freckles. *sad trombone*
I met up with Chris last night at our local bar where he was having a drink with a friend of ours. At the table was another woman who turned out to work with our friend. After a little while I found myself genuinely drawn to her. She was intelligent, naturally curious and friendly. And I remember thinking that I wished I could meet more women like her.
I often feel so much anxiety when I have to be in the company of women I’ve never met before. I used to think it had to do with the fact that I’ve always been more comfortable in the company of males. It isn’t to say I haven’t had close female friends, I always did, but my friendships with men in a group setting were always easier, simpler and more straightforward.
I realise now though, that part of the anxiety has to do with this assumption that all women either hate each other on sight, or we’re automatically supposed to bond because we’re women. But I don’t likeeveryone. I like people because I find them interesting, intelligent, funny, or engaging. Not because of their gender. But I feel so much pressure to connect with other women just because they’re there in the room or sitting at the same table. And I don’t want to come across as unfriendly. So even when I’ve met women that I actually didn’t like, I still felt I had to make the effort to talk to them. And I certainly don’t feel that way when I meet men I don’t like. I simply ignore them.
When I was in my teens and twenties I often felt very awkward and uncomfortable around women. I spoke “guy” better than I spoke “girl”. I don’t consider that to be something superior. I’m not one of those women who declares herself one of the guys as a point of pride. I still get those comments from my male friends even now at the age of 43. They mean it as a compliment. You’re not like other women. It’s not a compliment. Putting down other women does not elevate me. I just happen to be a woman who has a personality that seems to vibe very well with men. But I have found as I’ve gotten older I’ve met a lot more women that I can connect with immediately. And that may have to do with maturity. Maybe I’m around different people. Maybe I changed. But it’s easier now than it used to be. Even so, I still feel anxious every time I walk in the room and see a woman I’ve never met at the table. I always wonder how it’s gonna go. I always feel pressure to make it work. And I just wish it were easier.
Liming with some friends last night and someone asked me about my background because she detected a slight accent. When I mentioned growing up in Venezuela she asked excitedly if I spoke fluent Spanish to which I replied yes. Her face lit up and she was in awe.
I grew up in an environment where everybody was at least bilingual. Only knowing two languages was lame. A lot of my friends spoke four and five. But here just speaking something other than English is a big deal.
And then again I used to be a teacher of English as a Second Language. That’s when you realize how easy you have it as a native English speaker. We take it for granted, but I saw how hard my students had to work to learn this language that had all kinds of messed up rules and confusing structure and strange pronunciation. I never appreciated how hard English was to learn until I had to teach it. It’s a mess.
I’ve been working with feathers making earrings for the past few days. My studio is filled with feather fluff. I can’t wait to finish. Feathers are really annoying. They’re so damn fragile. Gimme metal any day.
Part of a limited edition collection for Carnival. This one is a pair of layered #feather and #crystal dangle earrings with a #sterlingsilver ear cuff. #jewelry #earrings #handmade
I don’t understand how all these people have gone on about Carrie Fisher aging poorly. Do they realise in the first Star Wars movie she was still a teenager? She’s 59 and she looks fucking fantastic.
A deist believes in God. I think I am closer to an agnostic in that I think my belief is more along the lines of thinking that we can’t really know for sure.
Atheists done believe in God and from my understanding, agnostics think it is not possible to determine with certainty whether or not there is a god. But what do they call people who just don’t know what they believe?
I think I’m one of those.
Maybe they call us confused.
I don’t believe that you have to have a name for it. Simply, non-religious.
Well I’ve never been religious but I have believed in God. So I’m just wondering if “questioning” is a category with a name.
31. You can erase any horrible experience from your past. What will it be?
A human stain I let into my life years ago and everything that came with it.
50. What is the most unusual conversation you ever had?
Well let’s put this in the category of conversations that I have had when I was not under the influence of alcohol or drugs. Or else I could go on at length.
I was in Miami a few years ago at an art show and this guy had a very unusual tattoo on his neck. When I asked him what it meant he told me that I already knew and smiled knowingly. I didn’t, but the thing was that I was certain that somewhere deep down inside me I did. I still do. I think I just can’t remember.
Atheists don’t believe in God and from my understanding, agnostics think it is not possible to determine with certainty whether or not there is a god. But what do they call people who just don’t know what they believe?
I agree with Jada Pinkett Smith’s call for people of colour to stop supporting the Oscars. It feels like we’re begging for a pat on the head by people who don’t want to acknowledge our art unless we’re portrayed in stereotypical roles as slaves, maids, prostitutes or criminals. This cannot be our benchmark for excellence. We are greater than this.
“I think we should discuss Danny. I think we should discuss what should be done with him. What should be done with him?” The Shining (1980) dir. Stanley Kubrick
Ok I’m usually shit at answering stuff like this but I’m gonna do it now cause right now it’s pretty easy to answer. Five things in no particular order
1. Being around my family. I see my siblings a lot less than I used to and I really miss them. With this loss of our father, we all pulled together a lot closer. So being with them, my mom, my niece, my brother in law and of course Chris, brings me incredibly joy.
2. The wanton release of jouvert. Carnival is a big thing in Trinidad but the best part of it for me are the few hours before Carnival Monday when we get together in the streets before dawn and cover ourselves in mud, paint, oil and cocoa and dance with reckless abandon. I have never felt so free and so joyful as I have playing jouvert.
3. When Chris says silly things to make me laugh. He has a sly, quiet sense of humour that often catches me by surprise. Laughing is one of my favourite things to do but laughing at his silly jokes is the best.
4. The adoring look in the eyes of a loving dog. I love dogs, and unfortunately we don’t have ond right now. I can’t wait until we get another.
5. Losing myself in creativity. I feel really happy when I’m making stuff. It really doesn’t have to be jewellery. It could be a card or baking bread or whatever. I just go to a place where I am at complete peace and harmony with myself and that’s pretty much my very definition of happiness.
Thanks for sending me this. It was a wonderful reminder of how incredibly rich my life is.
Dark water. Like being in the sea and swimming in water that’s deep that I can’t see through to the bottom. I always think I’m going to get eaten by something. Which is odd because I’ve swum in the ocean at night… but it wasn’t in the deep.
32. You got kicked out of the country for being a time-traveling heathen who sleeps with celebrities and has super-powers. But check out this cool shit… you can move to anywhere else in the world!
Well if there’s anywhere in the world I’d choose to live other than Trinidad it would be in California because that’s where my siblings live. It’s not the most adventurous choice, but it’s where my heart is.
51. Are you a good liar?
I think if I’m just making up shit for entertainment then yeah, I’m good at that. If I’m actually lying about something real, well I don’t know to be honest. I think I can get away with it with someone who doesn’t know me that well but for anyone who does I think it’s very clear when I’m being dishonest.
I’m watching The Great British Bake Off and now I am a) starving and b) convinced I’ve put on five pounds just by watching them make all these delicious baked goods. They just finished pastry week and I’d murder someone for a canapé right now.
1. Do you ever doubt the existence of others than you?
2. On a scale of 1-5, how afraid of the dark are you?
3. The person you would never want to meet?
4. What is your favorite word?
5. If you were a type of tree, what would you be?
6. When you looked in the mirror this morning what was the first thing you thought?
7. What shirt are you wearing?
8. What do you label yourself as?
9. Bright room or dark room?
10. What were you doing at midnight last night?
11. Favorite age you’ve been so far?
12. Who told you they loved you last?
13. Your worst enemy?
14. What is your current desktop picture?
15. Do you like someone?
16. The last song you listened to?
17. You can press a button that will make any one person explode. Who would you blow up?
18. Who would you really like to just punch in the face?
19. If anyone could be your slave for a day, who would it be and what would they have to do?
20. What is your best physical attribute? (showing said attribute is optional)
21. If you were the opposite sex for one day, what would you look like and what would you do?
22. Do you have a secret talent? If yes, what is it?
23. What is one unique thing you’re afraid of?
24. You can only have one kind of sandwich. Every sandwich ingredient known to humankind is at your disposal.
25. You just found $100! How are you going to spend it?
26. You just got a free plane ticket to anywhere in the world, but you have to leave immediately. Where are you going to go?
27. An angel appears out of Heaven and offers you a lifetime supply of the alcoholic beverage of your choice. “Be brand-specific” it says. Man! What are you gonna say about that? Even if you don’t drink booze there’s something you can figure out… so what’s it gonna be?
28. You discover a beautiful island upon which you may build your own society. You make the rules. What is the first rule you put into place?
29. What is your favorite expletive?
30. Your house is on fire, holy shit! You have just enough time to run in there and grab ONE inanimate object. Don’t worry, your loved ones and pets have already made it out safely. So what’s the one thing you’re going to save from that blazing inferno?
31. You can erase any horrible experience from your past. What will it be?
32. You got kicked out of the country for being a time-traveling heathen who sleeps with celebrities and has super-powers. But check out this cool shit… you can move to anywhere else in the world!
33. The Celestial Gates Of Beyond have opened, much to your surprise because you didn’t think such a thing existed. Death appears. As it turns out, Death is actually a pretty cool entity, and happens to be in a fantastic mood. Death offers to return the friend/family-member/person/etc. of your choice to the living world. Who will you bring back?
34. What was your last dream about?
35. Are you a good….[insert anything you’d like here]?
36. Have you ever been admitted to the hospital?
37. Have you ever built a snowman?
38. What is the color of your socks?
39. What type of music do you like?
40. Do you prefer sunrises or sunsets?
41. What is your favorite milkshake flavor?
42. What football team do you support? (I will answer in terms of American football as well as soccer)
43. Do you have any scars?
44. What do you want to be when you graduate?
45. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
46. Are you reliable?
47. If you could ask your future self one question, what would it be?
48. Do you hold grudges?
49. If you could breed two animals together to defy the laws of nature, what new animal would you create?
50. What is the most unusual conversation you’ve ever had?
51. Are you a good liar?
52. How long could you go without talking?
53. What has been you worst haircut/style?
54. Have you ever baked your own cake?
55. Can you do any accents other than your own?
56. What do you like on your toast?
57. What is the last thing you drew a picture of?
58. What would be you dream car?
59. Do you sing in the shower? Or do anything unusual in the shower? Explain.
60. Do you believe in aliens?
61. Do you often read your horoscope?
62. What is your favorite letter of the alphabet?
63. Which is cooler: dinosaurs or dragons?
64. What do you think about babies?
65. Freebie! Ask anything interesting you can think of.
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