I find it fascinating that people who choose not to have children are generally assumed to feel really strongly about not having children (or even to feel really strongly against children, anyone’s children, in general). I am probably not going to have children, not because I REALLY REALLY HATE the idea of having children, but because I don’t really really love it. Out of all the major decisions I will make in my life, this one is the only irreversible one. I can sell a house, quit a job, divorce a spouse, whatever. I cannot unhave a child. I cannot opt out of being a parent once I become a parent. I can’t even take a step back for the sake of self-care or whatever, or else my child will suffer.
So for me, having children is fuck yes or not at all. The default will be to remain childfree. Having children should be an opt-in decision, not an opt-out one. Until/unless I develop really strong feelings about wanting to have children, I won’t have them, even if that means I never end up having them at all.
As a mother, I really wish more people gave having children this kind of clear contemplation and thought. It’s an irreversible decision. Too many people don’t understand that.
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This is exactly how I feel. I always expected someday the desire to be a mother would come. But it never did. And I didn’t want to bring a child into this world feeling lukewarm about motherhood. I know there’s a lot I’ve missed out on but I’d rather not do something like create another human being while being ambiguous at best about it. For me it had to be a resounding YES, and that never happened. So by default I have remained child free. And I think that’s thoughtful and responsible approach, not selfish as many seem to think.
I was listening to BBC World in my car the other night and they were interviewing someone who after listening for a while I realised was from the Caribbean. The accent was somewhat generic (in that I couldn’t place where the person was from) but what struck me was how lovely and lilting our speech is. I had a few moments to hear it before it registered in my mind “West Indian” and my first thought was, “No wonder everyone always envisions people from the Caribbean as being happy all the time. Our speech sounds so musical that you couldn’t imagine someone speaking like that and being depressed or angry.” It made me feel really happy for a moment there. Too bad it’s far from the truth.
Have a look at my process for making rings 💍. .
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More Full Moon 🌙 Ideas to make the most of powerful Scorpio vibes: forgiveness is a big way to create space 🚀❤️🙏✨ and get unstuck. 💥💥💥
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#freshstarts #fengshui #prosperity #flow #flowermoon #highvibes #goodvibesonly #forgiveness
It’s important to keep your feelings and your self worth in different places – because when your feelings get hurt, it shouldn’t change how you view yourself.
Getting my hands dirty in some kind of artistic expression
Snuggling with my honey
5 things you hate:
Close-mindedness
Feeling uncomfortable in my skin
People who don’t know how to use their indicators
Meanness
Lack of generosity of spirit
5 things you’re looking forward to in the future:
Career advancement
Prosperity
Peace and harmony
Togetherness
Christmas
5 shows you like to watch:
Grey’s Anatomy
The Good Fight
How To Get Away With Murder
Jane The Virgin
This Is Us
5 facts about yourself:
I have travelled by plane, car, bus, train and helicopter all in one day.
I see visions of my future that come true
I am claustrophobic to the point where even seeing someone in a confined space on tv will make me panic
Red hair runs in my family. I didn’t get it but my sister’s natural hair colour is a dark auburn and my niece (from my half sister) is a bonafide redhead.
I have a bold, strong personality but inside I often feel very timid
As a piercer, I can tell you that any mucous-membrane piercing will seal itself back up RAPIDLY. I’ve had people come to me to get their apparatus back in from having it out only minutes. That being said, mine has been pierced for 6 years with a 16 gauge, and I can leave it out a day or two.
I’m surprised I was able to get it through after leaving it open for three weeks as I know they close up really fast.
Several weeks ago my nose piercing came out and I only bought a replacement today. On a scale of 1-10 of the pain of putting it in, I’d say it was about a 27. I felt like was giving birth through my nostril. This one stays in until I die.
Just arrived from Thailand, these beautiful raw amethysts. Im going to have to think about how I want to set these… .
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Just got in some beautiful new raw aquamarines. They seem to be my most popular stone lately 💎. Now going to set one in a silver ring 💍 .
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This is the lucky clover cat. reblog this in 30 seconds & he will bring u good luck and fortune.
THIS ONE!!! THIS IS THE ONE THAT WORKS!!!!!
I reblogged him the day i started treatment and 1. GOT TO MY APPOINTMENT ON TIME 2. FOUND A FREE PARKING TICKET SOMEONE LEFT IN THE METER FOR ME AND 3. GOT FREE STARBUCKS AFTER MY APPOINTMENT!!!!!
I’m convinced bc I reblogged this on Friday, got hired at a job I had a million interviews for, went on a first date that went well, and got kissed a billion times so like hell ya to the luck cat
So this fundraiser tea I’m selling at today… omg I clearly know nobody in Trinidad’s high society. And they all know each other. It looked like an episode of Real Housewives up in here. Everyone dressed to the nines, all greeting each other with kisses (at least we are not so pretentious as to air kiss in the Caribbean), I was really fascinating to watch it all take place. Unfortunately they did not inform the guests that there would be vendors so few people came prepared to buy. But I’ve made some sales regardless… having a credit card machine really helps. The event has started but I’m sticking around for a bit as some said they wanted to come back and purchase. All in all it’s not been a bad day.
I got invited to show my pieces at a fundraiser today. Apparently it’s going to be attended by Trinidad’s high society (if we have such a thing- and if we do I’m certainly not part of it). It cost me nothing to attend so anything I made is profit. I’m lying here in my towel trying to decide what to wear. Argh
Someone told me today (in the presence of my lovely husband of course) that I was very beautiful.
I gulped and said thanks, because I get embarrassed by compliments and attention in general. But I am recording it here for posterity because I definitely don’t hear stuff like that very often.
Every so often I post some of my enamel jewelry pieces in a facebook group I belong to dedicated to enamel jewelry. People always ask me about what techniques I use.
I’ve only been working with them for a few months. But I’ve done a lot of reading about the different properties of glass, fusing temperatures for different types of enamels, and most importantly just experimented my ass off. I threw out the rule books to see what would work for me. Sometimes I’m successful in creating the effect I want, sometimes it comes out a mess, but I take meticulous notes and make sure I have an understanding of why things happen.
I’m just always surprised by how little knowledge or understanding people who have taken courses and worked in the medium for years seem to have. Maybe they just stick to what they’ve been taught and never go outside the box. Maybe they don’t combine techniques. Maybe they don’t do research and read. I don’t know. But I get these questions every single time. And I just don’t get it.
I do a lot of experimenting in the studio. Sometimes things come out weird, and sometimes you get pleasant surprises like these funky tribal-looking enamel earrings! .
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Tenari Ioapo // You deserve the best, don’t settle for less. (via tenari-ioapo)
Perhaps the most important thing we bring to another person is the silence in us. Not the sort of silence that is filled with unspoken criticism or hard withdrawal. The sort of silence that is a place of refuge, of rest, of acceptance of someone as they are.
I really hate those copy and share posts about cancer that I see on facebook all the time. Like what good does it serve? I find them really triggering. I don’t need to be reminded of what cancer does. I’ve seen it. I lived it. I don’t want to hear another thing about it.
kyliebunbury My heart is heavy. 💔 Pitch will not be returning. I don’t have some eloquently thought out caption, because I’m still processing it all. Ginny Baker has profoundly changed my life and I am so grateful to have had the opportunity to play a role that resonated with so many people. I wasn’t ready to let go of Ginny, but more than anything I wasn’t ready to let go of my Pitch family- the cast, crew, creators and writers, thank you for the magic. MOST IMPORTANTLY!!!- Thank you to all of the fans who took the journey with us! Your support and love for the show has always moved us deeply! I love you all. ❤️ Ginny Baker out ✌🏽⚾️
I can’t believe this was cancelled it was such a good show
Mark Hamill talks about his relationship with Carrie Fisher
It leaves a terrible hole in the family that will never be filled. But I do know she wouldn’t want us to be consumed by grief. I still don’t think her to past tense. She’s so alive!
I LOVE LOVE LOVE this new #everythingeverything movie poster designed by my super sweetie @davidoftheyoon!!! 😍😍 Isn’t it just so, so, so, so beautiful?!
If I’m reading a book I see clearer without my glasses. If I’m looking at my computer or a tv screen I see better with them. I have astigmatism in both eyes. My glasses are supposed to make everything sharper. But sometimes they just don’t. So I’m always taking them on and off to see which works. Stupid eyes. Stupid glasses.
Stunning raw green apatite set in Sterling silver. This one is for sale, size 7. .
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I had an early morning appointment and I stopped to get a smoothie for breakfast on my way. I parked in the street and as I was walking away from my car, an older man yelled across the street at me saying something to the effect to leave some (of the smoothie) for him.
It wasn’t sexual or harassing by nature. He didn’t have a leering energy. So I just tipped the smoothie at him (without smiling) and he burst into laughter as if we’d both shared a moment. I wasn’t irritated. It just made me wonder if there would ever be a day when I’m out in public and some strange man does not feel the need to engage me in some way. So far it’s never happened. Like, just leave me alone nah please.
Sorry is not enough. Sometimes you actually have to change.
Gearing up for the Mother’s Day UpMarket on Saturday May 13th at the Trinidad Country Club. These beautiful gold dipped solar quartz pieces will be on available!
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the blomstrandbreen glacier, located in the svalbard archipelago (375 miles north of norway), has retreated nearly two kilometers since 1928, the year these sepia coloured photos were taken. the rate of glacial retreat has accelerated to 35 metres per year since 1960, and has only increased in the last decade.
the colour photos were taken by christian aslund for greenpeace in 2002. in the time between the two sets of photos, the earth’s atmosphere has warmed by a little less than 1° C (1.8° F), and the oceans have in turn risen by about 15 centimetres.
It is okay to be at a place of struggle. Struggle is just another word for growth. Even the most evolved beings find themselves in a place of struggle now and then. In fact, struggle is a sure sign to them that they are expanding; it is their indication of real and important progress. The only one who doesn’t struggle is the one who doesn’t grow. So if you are struggling right now, see it as a terrific sign — and celebrate your struggle.
‘Petrichor’ is the soothing, earthy,
and wonderfully pleasant smell of
rain falling on dry ground. The term
is derived from the ancient Greek
words ‘petra,’ which means ‘stone,’
and ‘ichor,’ which is the fluid that
flows in the veins of the gods. Source
Ophelia is the leader of the future resistance against Trump-net. That was the future calling looking for Ophelia’s mother in order to prevent her from ever being born. If Arnold comes knocking at your door, run.
that’s it i’m tying my tubes
I remember when Miles Davis came to my house. As he was passing by my piano, he stopped and put his hands down on the keys and played these eight chords, one after the other. It was so beautiful; he sounded like Bill Evans or Lisa [Coleman], who also had this way of playing chords that were so perfect. I was wondering whether he was playing games with me, because he wasn’t supposed to be a keyboard player. And when he was finished, I couldn’t decide whether it was him or an angel putting his hands on the keys.
My class 10/10 lost the plot today. I don’t even know where to start or how to explain to their parents that I think they’ve all turned into tiny little rebels.
9:10 – we are studying a report about Chernobyl in guided reading. Several are looking at me gone out when I explain that nuclear power can be dangerous. “So why use it?” one asks. Why indeed.
9:12 – we are now discussing renewable energy. Several more express outrage and ask why the country doesn’t have to use renewable energy. Several more state that we should avoid pollution because it kills polar bears and stuff right, Miss?
9:13 – I mention that it’s a complicated issue because of different viewpoints, and that certain people, say Drumpf, don’t believe in climate change.
9:14 – chaos.
9:15 – small child suggests someone murder Drumpf. I say that murder is both bad and illegal.
9:16 – the class have learned the word impeach and are shouting IMPEACH TRUMP IMPEACH TRUMP IMPEACH TRUMP while banging on the tables.
9:17 – headteacher comes in to see what is going on. Small child tells him quite angrily that SOME PEOPLE JUST DECIDE TO NOT BELIEVE IN SCIENCE WHICH YOU CAN’T DO BECAUSE IT’S SCIENCE. He backs out of the room quite quickly.
9:25 -I have abandoned plans for grammar and the children are now writing persuasive pieces about Why We Should Use Renewable Energy.
The saga continued after lunch when we continued our WW2 topic work, learning about the holocaust.
1:35 – we are discussing Kristalnacht. The class are collectively outraged and appalled. One is in tears.
1:40 – “Miss, I fucking hate Hitler.” that’s okay, but please express your hatred of fascism without the F word or I’ll have to ring your Mum again.
2:00 – small child who suggested murder earlier says “isn’t this exactly what Drumpf tried to do to the Muslims?” There’s a heady mix of realisation and outrage in the room.
2:13 – “Racism makes no sense” says a child, looking quite confused.
2:33 – “Hitler would have killed me because I’ve got cerebral palsy, right?” says a boy. He is tackle-hugged by a girl from across the table. I have to pretend I’m not crying.
2:34 – The rest of his table have made a pact to never let anyone hurt him. I am still pretending to be super chill. I am obviously failing as another child offers me a hug.
2:37 – I ask the children to look at nine examples of things the nazis did against Jewish people, and then arrange them in a diamond with what they consider the worst at the top.
2:38 – Mutiny. They all collectively decide to arrange all nine cards in a line and say that they’re all awful things so they all go at the top.
2:39 – I tell them if they kind find a way to fit a line of all nine in their books then fair enough. Smart child suggests a circle. Everyone cheers. We have a break, and they go outside raging about Hitler, Drumpf, racism, prejudice and injustice in general. I am handed a very strong tea by my TA who congratulates me on my gang of angry eleven year olds.
Faith in humanity both challenged and restored. Bring on tomorrow.
And sometimes, life gives you beautiful stories like this one just when you most need them…
I do believe that children are our future. Not all of them. Just some. Some will grow up to be knobs.
So I called the number that called me last night and apparently it was a police station. So I was all perturbed for nothing. I just don’t understand how you can call someone like that asking personal questions and not identify yourself. Have a sense of professionalism jesus.
transposed as in called my number instead of the other person with my name? but that still wouldn’t explain where they got my number from. it’s a cell phone. it’s not public. I don’t even have it on my business cards.
Some woman called me tonight and asked for me by my first and last name. When I responded that yes, that was me, she then asked me if I had a daughter by the name of Ophelia. When I told her no she said she must have the wrong number, apologized and hung up.
Now I know I am not the only person in this country with that name, but how did she get my number? My number is not on ANY social media, not even on my website.
In 1998, before the company was even incorporated, the concept of the doodle was born when Google founders Larry and Sergey played with the corporate logo to indicate their attendance at the Burning Man festival in the Nevada desert. They placed a stick figure drawing behind the 2nd “o” in the word, Google, and the revised logo was intended as a comical message to Google users that the founders were “out of office.”. While the first doodle was relatively simple, the idea of decorating the company logo to celebrate notable events was born.
Two years later in 2000, Larry and Sergey asked current webmaster Dennis Hwang, an intern at the time, to produce a doodle for Bastille Day. It was so well received by our users that Dennis was appointed Google’s chief doodler and doodles started showing up more and more regularly on the Google homepage. In the beginning, the doodles mostly celebrated familiar holidays; nowadays, they highlight a wide array of events and anniversaries from the Birthday of John James Audubon to the Ice Cream Sundae.
Over time, the demand for doodles has risen in the U.S. and internationally. Creating doodles is now the responsibility of a team of talented illlustrators (we call them doodlers) and engineers. For them, creating doodles has become a group effort to enliven the Google homepage and bring smiles to the faces of Google users around the world.
How many doodles has Google done over the years?
The team has created over 2000 doodles for our homepages around the world.
Who chooses what doodles will be created and how do you decide which events will receive doodles?
A group of Googlers get together regularly to brainstorm and decide which events will be celebrated with a doodle. The ideas for the doodles come from numerous sources including Googlers and Google users. The doodle selection process aims to celebrate interesting events and anniversaries that reflect Google’s personality and love for innovation.
Who designs the doodles?
There is a team of illustrators (we call them doodlers) and engineers that are behind each and every doodle you see.
How can Google users/the public submit ideas for doodles?
The doodle team is always excited to hear ideas from users – they can email proposals@google.com with ideas for the next Google doodle. The team receives hundreds of requests every day so we unfortunately can’t respond to everyone. But rest assured that we’re reading them 🙂
I wish I worked for Google and my job was to create the cool animations and the embellished Google logos that commemorate special events and people.
Like, there’s got to be a team of people in there whose job is just that. And they have to sit down and go through every day of the year and see what’s special about it and come up with something artistic and creative to celebrate it.
I mean, that’s gotta be one of the coolest jobs in the world. I wish that were my job.
Would the university that your dad taught at be interested in acquiring his library of documents be memorabilia? This would be a nice piece for it.
They, and several of his past collegues have expressed an interest in creating a library of his publications. But the map isn’t relevant to his professional life, just on a personal level.
My mom had this framed and gave it to me. I think this was sometime in the early 90’s, Dad meeting Fidel on an official state visit to Cuba. As much as Castro was a controversial figure, I always thought this was a pretty cool picture.
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