“Racebending rebooted franchises allows us to add diverse perspectives to the existing canon of culturally significant narratives, present minority characters in a way that better reflects our varied experiences, and escape the material dangers that a single story can present.”
“We owe a lot to the people at the beginning of the movement, the Harvey Milks, who said, ‘Come out of the closet because nothing will change unless everybody comes out and people come to know that they have gay and lesbian people in their own lives, their own sons and uncles and we’re part of everybody’s family.’
It wasn’t until such things as Coming Out Day that people started to wake up and realize that we’re not devils or alien beings from another planet.
When my parents found out that I was gay, they acted out of fear and concern. They assumed that I was either going to be a drug addict or a sex worker selling my body on a street corner and I would be dead in five years. They didn’t know successful, happy gay people. They were afraid for my life. They basically told me, ‘You’re either going to be straight or you’re going to pack up your bags and leave tonight.’ I told them I would be ‘good’, but within a week I had found a place to live. My father helped me move so it wasn’t really a disowning, but it was really difficult for them, and for me.
Now of course, we go and spend vacations with my parents. There was one point when my parents were remodeling their guest room, and they asked us, ‘Would you prefer twin beds or a double bed?’ ‘Double bed,’ we said. That’s progress.”
I’ve lost a noticeable amount of inches this past month. But I keep losing and gaining back the same three pounds. Like, I actually laugh when I get on the scale because it’s so stupid how it keeps going back and forth. I know y’all said not to focus on that so I’m not really sweating it (punny!) but it’s gonna have to change at some point. I guess that’ll mean changing my diet somewhat too. I’ve cut down on sugar a lot and am eating lighter meals in the evening (which is why I’m always starving lately).
Anyway Chris has lost over ten pounds but he’s grumpy because it’s not showing. Haaaaah I win!
I’m still seriously jonesing for more of that chocolate cake I baked for Chris’s birthday. Yeah it was that good. I can’t come up with a good excuse to make another so I guess I’ll wait for our anniversary next month. Jesus that is just so far away.
So it’s my girlfriend’s birthday today. I made her a bracelet and that illustrated quote that I’ll give her on Saturday. When I was messaging her today I asked her what she wanted for her birthday. You know what she said? Bread. As in a loaf of my freshly baked. She’s obsessed with my bread! So I’ll be bringing her one of those as well and I’m pretty sure it’s the only present of the three she’s really gonna give a shit about.
AFTER: I replaced the broken stone with this beautiful labradorite. I had to do a lot of filing to get the stone to fit as the setting wasn’t made for it. But it’s all polished up and ready to eat returned to its owner. #repair #jewelry #sterling #labradorite #trinidad #caribbean
BEFORE: A client brought me her cherished silver ring whose stone had cracked and fallen out. She asked if I could replace the broken moonstone (I think?) with a labradorite. #jewelry #repair #silver #gemstone #trinidad
So many adult women are in love with the boys from One Direction. Imagine the reaction if adult men were crazy over a band of teenage girls.
men are obsessed with teenage girls already and in a much more insidious way than enjoying their poppy feel good songs lol. this isn’t much of a thought experiment
Then photos on my phone taken by me aesthetic meme thingy. I was tagged by the lovely @millerflintstone. I tired not to include too many jewelry pics as you can imagine my phone is filled with them.
For many teenage girls, nothing is more sensitive than the way they feel about their appearance. In South Africa, race has been added to that delicate equation.
Last month, black students at the prestigious Pretoria High School for Girls protested a clause in the school’s code of conduct that banned wide cornrows, braids and dreadlocks. It wasn’t a new policy, and many South African schools have enforced similar rules before. But this time, girls pushed back — and their complaints touched a nerve.
The school, which was an all-white institution until the mid-1990s, dropped the restrictions a few days later — but not before triggering a debate across the country.
“They make it out to be about grooming, but it is about race,” says Lesley Chandata, a black woman from Zimbabwe who waits tables at a pizza parlor outside Cape Town.
Photo: Alan Greenblatt for NPR Caption: Zia Simpson, a student and sales assistant in Cape Town, says even her father tells her to tame her Afro. “That generation fought against apartheid, but they still carry around the mentality that green eyes look better on a person, that straight hair looks better on a person.”
I like this article from The Economist about how het couples who have sons are more likely to stay together than those who have daughters, and the way fathers think of their sons vs. their daughters, because it basically provides confirmation and statistics for stuff we all notice anecdotally.
Gordon Dahl at the University of California, San Diego and Enrico Moretti at the University of California, Berkeley noticed more than a decade ago that men are more likely to marry, and stay married to, women who bore them sons rather than daughters. In an analysis of American census data, they found that men were more inclined to propose to their partners if they discovered that a baby in utero was a boy, and they were less prone to getting a divorce if the first child was a boy rather than a girl. In the event of divorce, men with sons were more likely to get custody [ie to ask for custody], and women with daughters were less likely to remarry. […] This effect can be seen in data on households across a number of rich countries, which show that adolescent boys are more likely than girls to live with both biological parents.
Highlights:
“Results from the most recent poll, in 2011, were startlingly similar to those from the first [from the 1940s]: Americans said they favour boys over girls by a margin of 12 percentage points. This preference is driven mainly by men; women are largely agnostic.”
“Mothers usually lavish the same amount of time on their sons and daughters, at least when they are younger, whereas fathers devote more to sons from the get-go.” A study found that “fathers were twice as likely to take paternity leave for a son than a daughter”, and “married fathers with a child between six and 12 years old spent nearly 40 more minutes per day with sons than with daughters. In married families with two children of the same sex, fathers with sons spent between 22 and 27 minutes more per day on child care, and said they had less leisure time than those with daughters.”
“This extra help has a measurable impact on the quality of a marriage. When Giuliano delved into the reasons why more couples with a son stayed together after three years than those with a daughter, she found that fathers of boys were not only more likely to say they were excited to become a parent, but also more helpful around the home. Mothers of boys, in turn, were more likely to praise their husbands as fathers, and were happier in their relationships than those with only girls.”
“Sons also seem to push fathers to be more productive. Studies of Americans and Germans born after 1950 found that having a child of either sex spurred fathers to bring home more bacon, but the difference between a son and a daughter was considerable: nearly 110 hours a year for Germans and around 70 hours for Americans”, which suggests that fathers are “keener to provide for families with sons. Parents of sons seem not just to earn more but also to spend more. An analysis of American consumer expenditure data from the 1990s found that married couples with one son aged 18 or younger spent 4-7% more on housing than those with a daughter, and consumed more of everything from plane tickets to meals in restaurants. Intriguingly, families with sons also spent more on “women’s goods” such as jewellery and personal services (eg, manicures and hair salons), indicating that mothers benefit when there is a boy around.”
“Men are much more gendered in their behaviour, and in their expectations of the behaviour of their kids, than women are”
A dad saying “I’ve taken my daughter to ballgames, but she doesn’t really know the difference between basketball and baseball. If she was a boy, I have this feeling that it would’ve been easier to interest her in those things.”
Another dad saying men want a son so they can have a friend because men are incapable of making friends? and women can’t read the newspaper over breakfast? (”The possibility of shaping [my son’s] preferences to match mine is attractive. It’s why we play sports together, why we read together. I’m already envisioning trying to get him to read the newspaper over breakfast. I think that there’s a very significant desire for friendship that’s heightened for fathers with sons given how few other outlets we have to create friendships.”)
One man was relieved to have a daughter because having a son would have made him nervous about having to “constantly prove his masculinity around him” men are honestly such a joke
A mum saying “I have two daughters. When I asked my husband if he thinks this made a difference in how much he helped out, he said, ‘Yeah, I probably would feel more of a sense of responsibility if we had a son.’ It actually hadn’t even occurred to me before.”
“Men are much more gendered in their behaviour, and in their expectations of the behaviour of their kids, than women are”
Our friend is gonna come by and check out our apartment and bring Charlie (her kitty) so I can meet him. She’s totally stoked to find someone to take care of her cat while she’s on vacation and I’m totally stoked to be getting a kitty for two weeks.
Yesterday I worked on an Etsy order, a raw gemstone ring and two stacking rings. And in between while the rings were soaking in their various solutions I practiced some calligraphy.
After I finished the rings I made a piece of artwork that consisted of a quote on calligraphy and some watercolor leaves and flowers as embellishment. It’s a gift for a friend.
After I was finished in the studio, I was experimenting with some of my drawing apps on the iPad and worked on an illustration. Then I sketched out a drawing and began filling it in with ink pen.
And by the time Chris came home I was feeling so content. My dream was always just to do art every day all day long. My fantasy studio was always a massive place where I could have a station for every type of craft: one for metals, one for glass, one for clay, one for fabric, one for paints and inks and so on. It will happen one day. But yesterday I just felt very fulfilled with the little I have now. And that feels really good.
I just did @kayeputnam’s BRANDALITY quiz & got the CREATOR archetype.🤗
Quote by Saul Bass.🌸
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#JeliRAD #jeliradmindset #mindset #quote #ijustwanttomakebeautifulthingsevenifnobodycares #beautifulthings #creatorarchetype #creator #creative #brandality #indemandbrand #brand #designer #artist #saulbass
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When I was little, I thought love was about red roses and expensive dinners.. Truth is, love is giving her half your fries when she said she wasn’t hungry. It’s waking up at 4am to her snoring and refraining from shoving her off the bed. It’s talking in accents just for shits, and trying to embarrass one another in public. It’s going on adventures, and making fun of each other. It’s stupid fights and memorable make ups. Love isn’t pretty and romantic.. Love is just stumbling through life with your best friend.
I was telling Chris last night that I really want a pet. And he mentioned that a friend of ours is going on vacation for a couple of weeks and needs someone to cat sit for her.
Her kitty is an indoor cat and I’m not sure our apartment is secure enough to to keep her inside so I’d like her to come check the place out to see if it would be suitable. But I’d really love to have a kitty around even if it’s just for two weeks. Fingers crossed.
Here’s the close up shot, me whike doing the details 😄 #calligrafikas #grafikas #dreweuropeo #illustration #grafikaflora #botanicalwatercolor #watercolor #grafikafloralargeformat
Paper: Saunders Waterford 300gsm
Brush: Black Velvet round no 10, 6, 4 & Isabey travel round no 2
Paint: Daniel Smith
Years ago I used to work in a printery and along with graphic design stuff, part of my job involved production work like cutting down call cards or mounting stuff on foam core and whatnot.
So one day I was working on a large format print that I had just mounted on a backing. I was in the process of cutting it down when I accidentally sliced off the corner of my thumb.
At that point my main concern was not getting blood on the print so I left the workstation to administer some first aid.
When I got back to the table to finish the job I found that someone had laminated the piece of thumb and left it next to the poster for me as a keepsake.
This is the first time I’ve seen color tattoos on dark skin that actually look vibrant and pigmented!!!!!
Once I was talking to a dark skinned lady who told me that she was jealous of my pasty skin because she wants color tattoos, which her artist said wasn’t possible with her skin tone. I sent her to mine, and he proceeded to go off about how dark skin accepts greens, yellows, and white beautifully, and that her previous artist just lacked the skills to use those 3 colors as highlights to make other colors pop more. If you are dark skinned and your tattoo artist says you can’t have bright colors, find a new one.
So yesterday Chris bought a chainsaw for the farm. And when he came home he put on this instructional video from YouTube so I could watch it. Lemme tell you that I had NO IDEA that using a damn chainsaw was so complicated. Those Friday 13th movies are LIES. Just starting one of those fuckers up involves so many safety measures that by the time you got it running your victim would be long gone. Plus you know how Jason holds it in one hand and starts it up with the other all menacing like? Very poor form. Unsafe. Not recommended.
Then when they get to the maintenance part of the video we were joking about him cleaning blood and guts out of the machine parts and sitting there filing the chain all day. And basically I’m never going to take any movie seriously again that uses a chainsaw as a murder weapon.
Custom Nordic inspired hammer. Woodwork and leatherwork done by Reaction Designs
Women Please Read PLEASE SHARE: If you have an on going random itchy breasts with or without rash GET THAT LOOKED AT! DO NOT allow a doctor to brush it off as “jock itch” or a “minor skin irritation”. There is a form of breast cancer called IBC, Inflammatory Breast Cancer. It has been referred to as Cancer of an unknown origin (my mothers was labeled as this). A mamogram cannot detect this type of breast cancer only a biopsy can. It is aggressive and not as rare as it used to be.
“And I loved him for a while. he was very charismatic, great looking, very charming, very cute – if you can call a guy with a beard and voice like Satan cute. He used to draw people into his life, strangers off planes and off the streets, and they’d become his best friends. I think I mothered him, to be honest. He used to go off and I wouln’t see him for days, and days, and then he’d come back and I’d mother him and get him all nice and sober and then he’d go off and go crazy again. It’s one of those things. Opposites attract.”
Calligraphy by @suzcunningham 🔥🌟💯 – I am loving this new walnut ink now available online from @johnnealbookseller! It has a beautiful, rich brown color, but is still sheer enough to see the components of your strokes well. This makes it great for practicing your letterforms! It is made from husks of the Black Walnut tree and has a tiny bit of alcohol added to help prevent molding. Search item I150 True Walnut Ink. There’s also a kit you can order to make your own! ✒👑
#calligraphymasters #calligraphy #caligrafia #talnts #calligraphylove #loveletters #calligraphyisalive #calligraphie #moderncalligraphy #calligraphylove #featured #follow #instabeauty #instabest #instalove
I just got a response from Mitsubishi Australia and they informed me that the model of my car is called something different down there. I went online and googled car parts under that name and they’re totally available! Yaaaassssss!
I just remembered today that I bought an apron! For work, it wasn’t flouncy or anything. But I’ve always had a thing for aprons. One of my favourite things about starting school every year was that my mom would get me a new one for art class. They usually had nice prints on them and I always got to choose the one I wanted. This one was just a plain cotton one, but apparently I still get excited about new aprons. And school just started on Monday so I’m right on time!
When we were in New York there was a really good ramen restaurant right around the corner but it was so packed we couldn’t even order takeaway. So it was on my list of things I had to try sometime.
Well it turns out that there’s a new little startup here in Trinidad called Hashi, one Japanese chef and one Chinese and they launched at UpMarket last Sunday. I finally got to taste genuine ramen for the first time! I’ve got to admit I’ve become a little obsessed now, it was so amazingly delicious. Chris had the beef udon that was also tasty. They don’t have an actual restaurant yet so I’m gonna have to wait on that but I’m really glad I got a taste.
We walked out of the gym today and were immediately hit by a wall of hot, humid air. This is why I vacation in the fall and winter. I fucking hate living in this muggy fucking humid mess all the time.
No that’s not true. When I see my friends who live in temperate countries I realise humidity is why we look eternally youthful here. So I guess it’s an even trade then?
I have to set a gemstone (mine) into a client’s ring and I can’t find it anywhere. I really hope I put in my studio or else I’m gonna have to replace it for her ugh.
I was on the highway today and it started raining heavily. It was the same kind of rain that caused my accident the other day so I was super cautious and tried not to freak out too much. I made it home without incident but I realise that I really, really hate driving in the rain. My love affair with rain is best kept indoors.
I had the weirdest fucking dream. That I had gotten tattoos all over my body, some on my face and neck, and they were all these really fucking weird designs, totally arbitrary shit because I was supposedly bored. Then in the dream I was looking at them feeling really disappointed with myself for making such dumb choices. What the fuck is that about? I haven’t made any arbitrary stupid choices in my waking life. One was a large Mickey Mouse face… Mickey Mouse?? And they were all in deep rich black. What is UP with my subconscious?
I probably got triggered because i’ve recently seen a lottttt of women online harping on all the negative things “men” do that are actually not gender specfic and generally held my tongue. But you’re right, my bad ☺️
Understandable. It’s all good. Plus yeah that’s tough
Ok, but your circle of female friends is not all women though, right? Just as Chris’ friend (as classless as it might be) does not equal all men. That’s all I was trying to say. I feel like ppl atill try to ascribe certain behaviours to men or women as a whole group, instead of just saying “THIS guy” or “THAT woman” did such and such… 😳
I never said all men. I said some men and I was referencing that man specifically. I can only talk about my experience.
Most of my close friends over the years were female and i’ve heard women talk really explicitly among themselves about men the same way though… I don’t think it’s fair to peg on gender with that behaviour. I feel more like some maybe some ppl are just raw like that with ppl they consider their friends? 🤔
I also do not have any female friends who speak explicitly about their sex lives.
Most of my close friends over the years were female and i’ve heard women talk really explicitly among themselves about men the same way though… I don’t think it’s fair to peg on gender with that behaviour. I feel more like some maybe some ppl are just raw like that with ppl they consider their friends? 🤔
It had nothing to do with gender. I consider it to be tacky and classless regardless. In this case it happened to be a man.
Chris was hanging out with some of his old classmates this weekend and one of the guys was boasting about this new chick he was seeing, talking about how much sex they were having etc. A real gentleman that one.
Anyway he brought her there later and it turns out she’s the sister of one of my best (guy) friends.
And I was really tempted to tell her how he’d been speaking about her, but I decided not to, mostly because it would likely mean that Chris would get pulled into the mess and he hates that kinda shit. I didn’t hear it directly myself anyway. I don’t want to cause confusion and stick my nose in. But I’m just really grossed out by how some men talk about women, man.
I set a bunch of tiny 3mm stones in stacking rings today and I was really pleased with how neat my settings came out. A far cry from what they would have looked like a year ago. I don’t even know if it’s practice that made them better as I really don’t make these very often. Maybe the jewelry gods are smiling down on me. Anway it made me happy.
All done! These babies are headed to Texas tomorrow. Love the colour combination! #rhodolitegarnet #peridot #africanamethyst #apatite #trinidad #caribbean #sterling #jewerly #stackingring #sterling
“My body, my choice” only makes sense when someone else’s life isn’t at stake.
Fun fact: If my younger sister was in a car accident and desperately needed a blood transfusion to live, and I was the only person on Earth who could donate blood to save her, and even though donating blood is a relatively easy, safe, and quick procedure no one can force me to give blood. Yes, even to save the life of a fully grown person, it would be ILLEGAL to FORCE me to donate blood if I didn’t want to.
See, we have this concept called “bodily autonomy.” It’s this….cultural notion that a person’s control over their own body is above all important and must not be infringed upon.
Like, we can’t even take LIFE SAVING organs from CORPSES unless the person whose corpse it is gave consent before their death. Even corpses get bodily autonomy.
To tell people that they MUST sacrifice their bodily autonomy for 9 months against their will in an incredibly expensive, invasive, difficult process to save what YOU view as another human life (a debatable claim in the early stages of pregnancy when the VAST majority of abortions are performed) is desperately unethical. You can’t even ask people to sacrifice bodily autonomy to give up organs they aren’t using anymore after they have died.
You’re asking people who can become pregnant to accept less bodily autonomy than we grant to dead bodies.
reblogging for commentary
But, assuming the mother wasn’t raped, the choice to HAVE a baby and risk sacrificing their “bodily autonomy” is a choice that the mother made. YOu don’t have to have sex with someone. Cases of rape aside, it isn’t ethical to say abortion is justified. The unborn baby has rights, too.
First point: Bodily autonomy can be preserved, even if another life is dependent on it. See again the example about the blood donation.
And here’s another point: When you say that “rape is the exception” you betray something FUNDAMENTALLY BROKEN about your own argument.
Because a fetus produced from sexual assault is biologically NO DIFFERENT than a fetus produced from consensual sex. No difference at all.
If one is alive, so is the other. If one is a person, so is the other. If one has a soul, then so does the other. If one is a little blessing that happened for a reason and must be protected, then so is the other.
When you say that “Rape is the exception” what you betray is this: It isn’t about a life. This isn’t about the little soul sitting inside some person’s womb, because if it was you wouldn’t care about HOW it got there, only that it is a little life that needs protecting.
When you say “rape is the exception” what you say is this: You are treating pregnancy as a punishment. You are PUNISHING people who have had CONSENSUAL SEX but don’t want to go through a pregnancy. People who DARED to have consensual sex without the goal of procreation in mind, and this is their “consequence.”
And that is gross.
This has been added to since I last saw it, so reblogging again.
Busted wide open.
Mic dropped.
Also, let’s talk consent 101: consenting to one thing does not mean I am automatically consenting to something else.
If I consent to kiss someone, I am not automatically consenting to having sex with them. Hell, if I consented to have sex with someone one way, it doesn’t mean I am automatically consenting to doing it in a different. If I consent to having intercourse, I am not by default consenting to getting pregnant and giving birth.
Someone messaged me this morning asking if i do custom work, to which I replied affirmatively.
Then they sent me this grainy picture of what I assume is a ring (there was a finger in the picture) but it was almost impossible to make out any details. They had no other images, didn’t know what the ring was made of, what the stones were, I had no idea how large it was, nothing. And when I asked questions they told me that the ring didn’t have to be exact and that I had artistic license on this one smiley face.
So basically look at this whatever it is and make something like it, who knows what size ring, what metal, what stone and yeah have a blast? Noooo…………
I’m watching an old episode of The Amazing Race and they’re hang gliding off a cliff in Rio, and I’m remembering how pissed my brother and I were when at 16 and 14 our dad wouldn’t let us do it. Like, we felt he was being completely unreasonable. And my 43 year old self us just laughing because there is NO FUCKING WAY I would let me teenaged kids or niece and nephew EVER do something that dangerous.
When I got in the accident the other week I busted the headlight.
Normally this wouldn’t be a problem to replace but my car (which used to be my dad’s car) was bought in Australia (!!!!) and was like this limited model and all this shit and basically what it amounts to is that I can’t find a replacement for it ANYWHERE.
I just emailed Mitsubishi Australia in the vain hope that they can help me. But barring that, what are your options when you can find a replacement part? Can I get one made? How, who, where?
I swear if I was crafty enough I’d fucking do it myself but unfortunately that extends beyond my known talents.
Not usually, but I got a cheese-making kit for my birthday. I tried it once before and it came out really good. It’s difficult for me to find the right kind of milk here though so it’s taken me half a year to make a second batch.
My cheese was a little overcooked (yes you can cook your curds for too long) but still came out pretty good. I added some herbs de provence so I’m gonna go have some cheese and crackers and feel pleased with myself. Plus I’m hungry.
I started wearing it when I was 13-14, because I felt self-conscious about my skin colour. I know that is an odd thing to say as a white chick ;-), but I was told my whole life by my olive-skinned/dark haired mother that I looked “too pale” and “sickly” etc etc. Now I am dependent on it, psychologically, to feel OK :-(. Maybe she felt similarly…? (Not about being pale, but feeling dependent on it to feel OK about her looks…)
I’m not sure… she’s stated that she still loves makeup but that she doesn’t want to feel forced to wear it and also that she doesn’t want to “cover up” anymore: ‘Not my face, not my mind, not my soul, not my thoughts, not my dreams, not my struggles, not my emotional growth. Nothing.’
So I guess it’s somewhat symbolic too? I mean I can sort of understand that. Makeup doesn’t mean the same thing to me, but I can see if you’re on a quest to be your most authentic self how you might want to ditch makeup. But I don’t know who’s forcing her to wear it. But then I’m not a mega famous pop star… ? I dunno.
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