I’m taking the day off work today. This cut on my thumb is a little deeper than I thought and I want to give it some space to heal.
I have to go to the post office to mail out two orders today but that’s about it. I think I’ll try out those paints Chris bought me for Christmas that I haven’t had the opportunity to explore yet. Maybe somehow I will magically get better (and looser) at watercolours.
I’m currently waiting for a client to pick up his order so I can get in my kitchen and bake some muffins. From a mix. Cause where am I finding blueberries here?
It’s funny how men want to control the conversation when it comes to women’s reproductive rights, but when the conversation is about male on female violence it suddenly becomes a “women’s issue”
With all the ridiculous white people baby names I see on this website—"Hi! Meet my daughter Mcixipli@xop! It’s pronounced ‘Sue,‘—we can’t accept that the fucking creator of the format pronounces it JIF and just move on?
I love celebrity encounters. The best was in a hotel in London.
I was in the lobby and saw Lucy Liu. She’s, like, this tall. She looked up at me and saw a tag sticking out the back of my sweater. She reached up, tucked it in, and said, ‘Now you’re perfect.’
Barry Jenkins: The scene is interesting to me because it’s like a turning point. These characters are essentially strangers to each other. And this scene is just after they’ve reconnected. Tarell Alvin McCraney’s original piece, “In Moonlight Black Boys Look Blue,” was kind of the starting point of this. Tarell wrote it as an undergrad at DePaul and passed it to me like a baton in a relay race.
He had this scene where Juan (Mahershala Ali) teaches Little (Alex Hibbert) some self-sustainability. Miami is surrounded by water. It’s always present. And I felt like there needed to be a moment of spiritual transference between these two characters. This idea of a swimming lesson seemed like the right place to do it.
this scene was amazing but even more incredible when I learned that Alex didn’t know how to swim before filming it. the level of trust needed to make this work was really beautiful
I always wonder about shows like Grey’s Anatomy where people come in and they’re like, “You need surgery NOW,” and nobody ever worries about how they’re gonna pay for it and it just happens and they never discuss money. Like what kind of fantasy hospital is this?
And also? We have free healthcare in my country but unless you’re about to die or you know someone who can pull some strings? You better get in line for that surgery. It can take months for your turn to come.
I think I’m overthinking a show that’s about relationships and not a shitty busted up healthcare system. But every now and then I like to entertain these thoughts.
I made some funky pieces in the studio today. Purple and lime green. I’m digging this colour combo. This will make s nice #pendant and #earrings. .
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I was working on this pretty raw #aquamarine ring yesterday. It’s one of that new shipment I got recently. They’re so pretty! .
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I seem to be losing my voice. This cold is really weird. Chris has the sniffles but I just have a sore throat and just feel kind of generally under the weather. Whatever I made a bunch of copper blanks yesterday so I’m going into the studio today.
Our neighbour’s cat is obsessed with my car. Every time I approach it (the car) kitty is running out from under it.
The other day a saw a miniature version of the kitty trying to get through the gate. Turns out kitty had a baby. So I guess I can expect to sets of sliding paw prints on my hood now.
This cold that I’m fighting off seems to have settled in my throat. I was home working all day today and didn’t speak to anyone until Chris came home. I opened my mouth and I sounded like a man. It’s been very disconcerting. I think I’ll shut up for the rest of the evening.
I think given how many shitty subversive assumptions people have can be chalked up to racism, it can also become a knee-jerk reaction to label an assumption as racist when sometimes it really is just a lack of information or attention to detail. There’s a lot of awful things happening in the world right now and a lot of hate, but we also need to take a moment before we clobber people over stuff like this.
This is the way I see it. I really don’t think people draw conclusions based on one thing a lot of times either. It’s multifaceted. People are so quick to cry racism these days and I’m not denying that it isn’t out there, but it’s not the reason for everything. Like everyone else I agree on not clobbering people on the head over it.
It seems a little unfair of you to not include the second part of my comment in your response–the part where I said crucifying people over it is unnecessary. But as I said before I think it’s important that people use an event like this to check their racial, class, etc. bias. There is a reason people think nanny before mom and from experience with white people in America, I’m pretty confident 99% of them thought that because of implicit racial bias.
I didn’t respond to the second part of your response because I didn’t think it was required. We were in agreement. I was responding to the first part because I wanted to offer an alternative perspective as to why people might think what they think. I’m coming from the perspective of a non-white, non-American so I was just giving my point of view. I, by the way, thought she was the nanny, for several reasons.
I’m with you on the second part, but as someone who has always had people question that my mom is my mom even though we do look alike apart from her being white I’m pretty sure it very much is racism that makes those assumptions.
I don’t see why it has to be chalked up to racism though. I mean if you see a group of people together and you think “family” it’s not because you’re looking closely enough to see who resembles who. If they’re alike enough you make the assumption. If they’re different looking maybe you don’t automatically think “family” until you look closer. But that doesn’t mean you’re racist, it just means you’re grouping people together who are similar and making assumptions about them. My sister is ten years younger than me but people sometimes ask who is older. Does that make them ageist? No. People don’t think so hard. They see what they see and make a split second decision on what they think it is. I’m not saying racism might not have played a part in the whole idea that the Asian woman is the nanny, but I just don’t think everything can be chalked up to “that’s racist”
Honestly I think people are making way too much of a fuss about that BBC presenter whose wife was mistaken for the nanny.
My sister has two kids, one of whom looks white. So since she was born people have always assumed my sister was the nanny. She laughs it off, as do we. Because when there’s a kid who looks nothing like the person wheeling the stroller, the natural assumption would be that it’s not the kid’s mom! They look nothing alike there’s no reason anyone would ever think they’re related. It’s not a race thing. It’s a what makes sense thing.*
The other thing is, I don’t know why people are acting like being a nanny is something demeaning. There are Asian nannies, Black nannies, White nannies… all kinds of people work in this profession. And if you think it’s insulting to assume someone is the nanny then perhaps you have an issue with service oriented jobs and so maybe the problem is you.
This adorable video has gone viral and not only because it’s funny, but also because some people have mistaken professors wife for a NANNY.
Well, one more time we witnessed that we have huge problems in our society. It is a problem, when people see an Asian woman and immediately assume she is a nanny for white man’s kids. Here is a perfect conclusion for those who have mistaken his adorable wife for a nanny.
Learn a lesson and grow smarter.
The fact that people didn’t think for a minute that she could’ve been his wife shows that society hasn’t progressed as far as people make it seem.
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It’s funny, cuz I saw the intensity of her frantic rush to catch the kids and immediately thought, “That is a mother’s life.”
and my friend said, “So funny you said mother, cuz apparently everyone assumed she was the nanny.”
No no, my friends. That kind of stress? That kind of “what the fuck are my kids doing now?” Knocking down books? Crawling on the floor? To stop your kids from doing something stupid/embarrassing? Nannies somehow seem used to it. Us moms? Forever frantic.
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I totally agree there are some ingrained stereotypes at work when so many assumed the woman was the children’s nanny. But like @urfvgrl said, her whole demeanour screamed “Mom” to me. I recognized those feelings to the core of my being, hah.
I thought she was the nanny. My mom was a housekeeper/nanny so that stereotype is ingrained in me despite all I’ve done to purge it.
Sigh.
*rolls up sleeves*
Okay I guess I have more work to do.
I thought she was the nanny because she didn’t read “mom” to me. I thought I was watching someone frantically trying to save her job. Also she looked a lot younger than him. Maybe it’s cause I’m not a mom that I didn’t read Mom in her body language but my mother would never have acted like that. She’d have been a lot more laid back about it.
Below is a list of some highly recommended books written by people of color (in no particular order).They span across a wide variety of genres and target audiences. Thank you to everyone who submitted their favorites and helped make this list possible! Known triggers are in parentheses next to the books they apply to, but if there is something that has been missed or there’s a book you’d like me to add, please don’t hesitate to let me know! Happy reading!
The Kite Runner – Khaled Hosseini (rape, murder, child abuse, domestic violence) The Namesake – Jhumpa Lahiri Migritude – Shailija Patel (gore, violence, rape mentions, abuse) The Alchemist – Paulo Coelho The God of Small Things – Arundathi Roy (child abuse, sex) Joys of Motherhood – Buchi Emecheta (starvation, poverty, gore, and suicide) Distant View of a Minaret – Alifa Rifaat (castration and death) White Teeth – Zadie Smith Emails from Scheherazade – Mohja Kahf (sexual violence) Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe – Benjamin Alire Sáenz (transphobic language/violence, homophobic violence) Boy Snow Bird – Helen Oyeyemi Sister of My Heart – Chitra Banerjee Divakurani Persepolis – Marjane Satrapi The Meursault Investigation – Kamel Daoud Invisible Man – Ralph Ellison The Summer Prince – Alaya Dawn Johnson The Noughts and Crosses series – Malorie Blackman A Thousand Splendid Suns – Khaled Hosseini (rape, murder, child abuse, domestic violence) And The Mountain Echoed – Khaled Hosseini (rape, child abuse) The Satanic Verses – Salman Rushdie Sleepwalker’s Guide to Dancing – Mira Karoll Born Confused – Tanuja Desai Hidier The Queen of Water – Laura Resau and María Virginia Farinango (child abuse, sexual harassment/child sexual abuse, racism, internalized racism, internalized shadism) Time to Dance – Padma Venkatraman Interpreter of Maladies – Jhumpa Lahiri (implications of rape and sexual harassment) Veronika Decides to Die – Paulo Coelho Astonishing the Gods – Ben Okri Kafka on the Shore – Haruki Murakami Fasting Feasting – Anita Desai The Buddha of Suburbia – Hanif Kureishi Drown – Junot Diaz Things Fall Apart – Chinua Achebe The Bastard of Istanbul – Elif Shafak Honor: A Novel – Elif Shafak Their Eyes Were Watching God – Zora Neale Hurston Reservation Blues – Sherman Alexie The Absolutely True Diary of a Part-Time Indian – Sherman Alexie The Age of Shiva – Manil Suri The Kitchen God’s Wife – Amy Tan Tell Me Again How a Crush Should Feel – Sara Farizan By the Light of My Father’s Smile – Alice Walker A Case of Exploding Mangoes – Mohammed Hanif No God but God – Reza Aslan The Palace of Illusions – Chitra Banerjee Divakaruni A Tale for the Time Being – Ruth Ozeki Babji – Abha Dawesar Unaccustomed Earth – Jhumpa Lahiri (implications of rape and sexual harassment) Funny Boy – Shyam Selvadurai (violence, rape mention) The House on Mango Street – Sandra Cisneros (sexual assault) Americanah – Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie Brick Lane – Monica Ali No Longer Human – Osamu Dazai A Bad Character – Deepti Kapoor (death, abusive relationships) Karma and Other Stories – Rishi Reddi The Burning Sky – Sherry Thomas Reading Lolita in Tehran – Azar Nafisi Climbing the Stairs – Padma Venkatraman The Bluest Eye – Toni Morrison Coin Locker Babies – Ryu Murakami The Joy Luck Club – Amy Tan Please Look After Mom – Shin Kyung Sook Bonsai Kitten – Lakshmi Narayan Written in the Stars – Aisha Saeed The Hero’s Walk – Anita Rau Badami Crazy Rich Asians – Kevin Kwan The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao – Junot Diaz Beloved – Toni Morrison Woman at Point Zero – Nawal El Saadawi The Golden Age – Tahmima Anam Season of Migration to the North – Tayib Saleh Norwegian Wood – Haruki Murakami Snow – Orhan Pamuk Purple Hibiscus – Chimamanda Ngozi Adiche The President – Miguel Asturias (extreme violence, rape) The Hungry Ghosts – Shyam Selvadurai The Skin I’m In – Sharon G. Flake Black Boy – Richard Wright Cinnamon Gardens – Shyam Selvadurai 1Q84 – Haruki Murakami (domestic violence, horror, violence) She of the Mountains – Vivek Shraya (explicit sex) Island of a Thousand Mirrors – Nayomi Munaweera (rape, violence) Chinaman: The Legend of Pradeep Mathew – Shehan Karunatilaka Broken Circle – Theodore Fontaine (child sexual abuse, alcoholism, anti-Native sentiment) The Reluctant Fundamentalist and Moth Smoke – Mohsin Hamid Burnt Shadows, Kratography, Salt and Saffron – Kamila Shamsie Last Man in Tower – Aravind Adiga Birds of Paradise Lost – Andrew Lam Midnight’s Children – Salman Rushdie Bitter Melon – Cara Chow (child abuse) Q&A – Vikas Swarup Five Point Someone – Chetan Bhagat Motorcycles and Sweetgrass – Drew Hayden Taylor Lakota Woman – Mary Crow-Dog Legend Trilogy – Marie Lu The Young Elites – Marie Lu The Wrath and the Dawn – Renee Ahdieh An Ember in the Ashes – Sabaa Tahir (rape, abuse) Where the Mountain Meets the Moon – Grace Lin Half of A Yellow Sun – Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie Children of The Jacaranda Tree – Sahar Delijani The Twentieth Wife – Indu Sundaresan Destiny’s Captive – Beverly Jenkins Tiny Pretty Things – Sona Charaipotra and Dhonielle Clayton (eating disorders, bullying, family issues) Lakota Woman – Mary Brave Bird (child abuse, alcohol abuse, sexual abuse) Flight – Sherman Alexie (child abuse, alcohol abuse, sexual abuse) Nervous Conditions – Tsitsi Dangerembga (violence, eating disorders and mental illness) Redefining Realness – Janet Mock (child sexual assault, child abuse, transphobia) The Woman Warrior – Maxine Hong Kingston Under the Udala Trees – Chinelo Okparanta (homophobia, violence against queer women) The Ghost Bride – Yangsze Choo The Shiva Trilogy – Amish Tripathi (rape) The Krishna Key – Ashwin Sanghi To All The Boys I’ve Loved Before – Jenny Han The White Tiger – Aravind Adiga Shatter Me Trilogy – Tahereh Mafi The promise – Nikita Singh When Only Love Remains – Durjoy Datta Nectar in a Sieve – Kamala Markandaya Chords of Strength – David Archuleta This Bridge Called My Back – Gloria Anzaldúa and Cherríe Moraga Colorless Tsukuru Tazaki and His Years of Pilgrimage – Haruki Murakami (rape/suicide mentions) I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings – Maya Angelou (rape) Draupadi: The Fire-Born Princess – Saraswati Nagpal The Hybrid Chronicles – Kat Zhang (child abuse, violence) Esperanza Rising – Pam Muñoz Ryan Becoming Naomi Leon – Pam Muñoz Ryan The Summer I Turned Pretty – Jenny Han Snow Flower and the Secret Fan – Lisa See Out of My Mind – Sharon Draper Ghana Must Go – Taiye Selasi Difficult Daughters – Manju Kapoor Love in the Time of Cholera – Gabriel García Márquez (violence, explicit sex, death) Birdie – Tracy Lindberg Burn For Burn – Jenny Han Mãn – Kim Thúy Huntress – Malinda Lo A Suitable Boy – Vikram Seth From Heaven Lake – Vikram Seth Two Lives – Vikram Seth Parable of the Sower – Octavia Butler (violence) The Mango Bride – Marivi Soliven (abuse) Between Two Worlds – Roxana Saberi When the Elephants Dance – Tess Holthe (rape) The Wind-Up Bird Chronicle – Haruki Murakami A Hundred Years of Solitude – Gabriel García Márquez (violence, explicit sex, death) La Vie et Demie – Sony Labou Tansi – French (gore, sexual violence) L’Enfant de Sable – Tahar Ben Jelloun – French (gender violence) Girls of Riyadh – Rajaa Alsanea The Secret Lives of Baba Segi’s Wives – Lola Shoneyin I Do Not Come to You by Chance – Adaobi Tricia Nwaubani 26a – Diana Evans Cloth Girl – Marilyn Heward Mills The Hidden Star – K. Sello Duiker kemi’s journal – Abidemi Sanusi Imagine This – Vickie M. Stringer God’s Bits of Wood – Sembene Ousmane Chronicle of a Death Foretold – Gabriel García Márquez (violence, explicit sex, death) The Autobiography of Malcolm X – Malcolm X (trigger warnings for rape, racism, death) Roots – Alex Haley Sultana’s Dream – Rokeya Sakhawat Hossain The Crossover – Kwame Alexander I Am Malala – Malala Yousafzai Death, Dickinson, and the Demented Life of Frenchie Garcia – Jenny Torres Sanchez When Reason Breaks – Cindy Rodriguez Los Perros – Lorea Canales – Spanish The Secret Side of Empty – Maria E. Andreu The Wake of the White Tiger – Diamond Shamsher Rana Blue Mimosa – Parijat – best read in its original language of Nepali The Bluest Eye – Toni Morrison (child sexual abuse, racism, violence, animal abuse, body image) Empress Orchid – Anchee Min Annihilation of Caste – B.R. Ambedkar Palace Walk – Naguib Mahfouz How to Be Drawn – Terrance Hayes When My Brother Was an Aztec – Natalie Diaz (explicit sex, drug references) Boy With Thorn – Rickey Laurentiis Between The World and Me – Ta-Nehisi Coates (police brutality) Breath, Eyes, Memory – Edwidge Danticat I Too Had A Love Story – Ravinder Singh Can Love Happen Twice? – Ravinder Singh Boys Don’t Cry – Malorie Blackman If You Could Be Mine – Sara Farizan Ash – Malinda Lo Pig Heart Boy – Malorie Blackman (death) The Pearl that Broke Its Shell – Nadia Hashimi Brown Girl Dreaming – Jacqueline Woodsen Umrao Jaan Ada – Mirza Hadi Ruswa – Urdu Why Are All The Black Kids Sitting Together In The Cafeteria? – Beverly Daniel Tatum Citizen – Claudia Rankin This is How You Lose Her – Junot Diaz Teaching My Mother How to Give Birth – Warsan Shire Whale Rider – Witi Ihimaera
I woke up at 4:30 this morning to a low-flying helicopter passing over and was suddenly filled with dread because it reminded me of the night Hugo Chavez staged his first coup in Venezuela.
I remember noticing all the helicopters flying over the city that night, wondering why there was so much air traffic. It wasn’t until we were called by the school the next morning that we found out what had happened.
We don’t get much air traffic where we live and that helicopter sounded large and was flying low. I waited to hear if there were any others but it was just the one. But now I’m awake thinking of insurrections. Might as well just get up.
The athletic wear company announced the release of the “pro hijab,” Al Arabiya English reported on Monday.
“The Nike Pro Hijab may have been more than a year in the making, but its impetus can be traced much further back, to an ongoing cultural shift that has seen more women than ever embracing sport,” a statement from Nike said, according to Al Arabiya English.
The “pro hijab” is set to be released in spring 2018. Its creation follows years of controversy regarding Muslim women keeping their hair covered during athletic competitions. Read more (3/7/17 11:10 AM)
Asiya Sport did it first. They also manufacture all their products in the USA, meaning they are an ethical company that doesn’t just use the idea of inclusivity and female empowerment to sell products made from the exploited, outsourced, cheap labour of vulnerable women and girls.
Let’s support ethical Muslim companies before we reward opportunistic companies that have finally caught on to the money they can make from considering muslim women valuable consumer markets. Shop Here.
Reblogging for this content because fuck major corporations! 😎
My sis, her husband and the two kids were planning on coming down to Trinidad in August. My niece was super excited as she is very curious about Trinidad. She hasn’t been here since she was a toddler. I was psyched because I’d get to spend some quality time with them and do cool Aunty stuff.
My sister recently told me they’re not coming anymore. She said it’s because her husband only had a green card (the rest of them are citizens) and she’s afraid of what could happen if he leaves the country.
Thanks to that orange-faced shit-gibbon I won’t see my family this summer. I’m really fucking pissed.
Someone just ordered a size 4.5 ring on my Etsy store. I’m wondering if I’ve ever made a ring that small before. That won’t even fit on my pinky finger. Teeny tiny ring for teeny tiny person.
There’s this man who lives somewhere in our neighbourhood. He’s always at the gate by one of the neighbours. Something’s not quite right about him but I don’t know what, he seems a little off. I hate interacting with him. I passed him a little while ago and he commented on how rainy it was this evening and I gave him a nod and a half smile. Then he looked at me and said, “Yuh so nice.” He did not mean my personality. The half smile I’d granted him immediately slid off my face and I quickened my pace to get away from his presence. He always says that to me. I hate it. I wish he would just ignore me. He gives me the fucking creeps and I feel assaulted every time he says it. *shudder* Just gross.
The lady who emailed me on my Etsy shop saying that Carnival was over and demanding to know when her ring would be delivered? I just checked. She got it that same day.
Of course she never said anything. But if I were her I’d probably keep my ass quiet too.
Honestly I get feeling pissed that something you expected to arrive hasn’t come. I even understand firing off an email while being pissed. But it never helps the situation. And I personally always end up feeling like an asshole, especially when the person at the other end is nice and polite about it.
So yeah I wouldn’t have emailed me to let me know it arrived that day either.
I didn’t make it out of bed today except to have a shower.
We went to this music festival way out in the country yesterday. We didn’t get back home until three this morning. And I guess we spent all day recovering from it.
I could bitch about age and the days when we’d have been ready to go out the next day after a night like that but honestly, it was delicious. We ordered in, ate in bed, slept all day, watched tv and read. Awesomeness.
Reading over details is not a strong point of many.
Well I get that but then if your order doesn’t arrive when you think it should perhaps check the shipping times then instead of sending me a rude email?
you wanna see some badass shit from the early 20th century?? The Lumière brothers created the first full color photograph… in fucking 1903! So these dudes dyed potatoes (in red, blue, and green), mashed them down into just pure fuckin’ starch, and used these dyed potato starches as filters to block out/let in certain wavelengths of light. They coated one side of a glass plate with the starches and sensitized the other side with a mixture of gelatin and light sensitive materials (silver nitrate) and loaded these plates in their cameras.. This is a really simple explanation of the process and I may have missed some things
I had some orders to get out over Carnival weekend but because the post office was closed I emailed all my customers to let them know why their orders would be shipping out late by one day.
I shipped them on March 1st. I just got an email from a customer that said, “Natasha, Carnival is over where is my ring.”
I decided to respond with an email dripping in politeness and sweetness, starting with a “good evening.” I reminded her of my shop’s shipping times, how she can track her package and also that I have no control over delays in shipping.
I’ve actually been having a lot of problems with USPS taking forever to deliver my orders lately, but my customers are usually incredibly polite (if a little worried) when they contact me. This woman’s tone was very jarring as a result. And seriously though why don’t people read shipping times? I’m in the CARIBBEAN. Fuuuuuuuckkkkk.
I just got a new shipment of #rawgemstones , #aquamarine #apatite and #peridot. These are particularly beautiful, I can’t wait to set them in something! #semipreciousgems #blue #green #gemstones #jewelry #artisanjewelry #handmadejewelry #sundarajewelry #sundarajewelry #buylocal #trinidad #caribbean #trinidadandtobago #t&t
I was just reading something and it said “he was born into slavery” and that just made me stop in my tracks. Born into slavery. Nobody’s born into slavery. People are born free. And enslaved. Sometimes from birth. How could you be born into slavery? That’s just SO fucked up… the concept of it.
After a year of being told by all his friends that this one chick that was constantly buzzing around him (nah she cool!) was a psycho, a good friend of mine just found out that guess what? She’s a psycho.
Why don’t people listen? If I had a friend any everyone told me they didn’t like him, I’d look into it.
Anyway I sent my friend a video this morning. Poison by Bell Biv Devoe.
I have always lived “in” the place I grew up in… I mean technically I live in the same “yard” (lot) in a totally separate (newer) building, but you get the idea. And I pretty much daily go to my actual childhood home a few steps away, same “yard” because my mom and my son live literally in my childhood home. My soon actually sleeps in the room I grew up in from birth to adulthood Super Trini of me, ent lol. Long story short i’ve had the same address all my life, wouldn’t have it any other way.
I went home by mom today and found an old staff photo from Dad’s teaching days. This would have been right after he came back from university in Dublin in ‘63 or ’64. He’d have been around 22. He’s in the middle looking very serious and professorial. ❤
I’m watching this show today and long story short the husband is being unfaithful, wife trying to save marriage, nothing’s working, she stops giving a shit, he suddenly recommits himself to the marriage and everything is fine.
I find a lot of shows and movies oversimplify the effects of betrayal. Someone apologizes and they’re all good? That’s not how people work. People don’t just get over shit like that. If you’re gonna use cheating as a plot device at least see it all the way through dammit.
I have a friend who’s lived in the same house all his life, other than when he was away at college. He still lives there now at 43 with his parents, sister and her kid (that’s very common in Trinidad). One house all his life.
When I turned two I had just moved to my third COUNTRY. No, my life would not continue in such a dramatic fashion but moving houses has been a theme. I think right now I’m on my 22nd or something. And I’m 44 so that’s an average of every two years. It hasn’t been quite that frequent of late but there was a time I was moving every year, and that really fucks with your sense of security.
There’s only one home I can revisit from my childhood, at my aunt and uncle’s, and I cherish that so much, especially since leaving Trinidad as a child was so difficult for me. I’m so envious of my friend living in the house that holds all his childhood memories. I will never be able to revisit most of mine. There’s a lot to be said for permanence.
Enamel piece in Trini 🇹🇹colours! First piece I tried like this didn’t work out. This one came out exactly like I wanted. Success!
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Wide band copper #dragonfly ring. Sending this off to its new owner tomorrow!
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Yesterday’s enamel pendants. The best part is when you put the final layer in the kiln and get to watch the magic happen! 😍 –
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reminder: “you’re the root of the problem” is never necessarily true across the board.
if every relationship you’ve been in has ended in you being abused, that doesn’t mean the “end-all common is you, you’re the issue”
abusers actively seek out abuse survivors because they’re seen as easier to manipulate and trap into relationships.
and remember abuse takes constant, conscious effort. the abuser is planning their every action.
it is not your fault that people hurt you for their own gain. no matter if its one person or its 100 people. there’s nothing wrong with you. you are not the problem here
soulsistrin 