I got together with my coven last week. We always do a group reading and it told us about entering a period of darkness, as a way of going deeper into our initiation. At the time it really didn’t resonate with any of us until this week. It hit each of us hard. We’re all feeling crazy and half suicidal, half murderous. It should end in a couple of weeks but fuck man if I didn’t have them to support me through this I’d have already lost my damn mind.

Huh. I’ve discovered that taking out a 1 day $1 ad on instagram can get you a lot of mileage.

thecringeandwincefactory:

brokenfannibal:

adigitalmagician:

hahanothanks:

couriers-mile:

princeoffresh:

dylanohcryin:

fuck personality types u wanna know a lot about a person? present them w a plate of brownies and see if they take a corner, side, or middle piece

tag this with the type of brownie piece you would take

This post claims this metric can tell you a lot but doesn’t offer any insight on decoding people’s choices so allow me to take a crack at it:

Corner piece: Bitter and tired but cute, likes to curl up in a blanket burrito and marathon weird documentaries and true crime at three in the morning because executive dysfunction won the fight against going to bed on time for the morning shift, probably a top. Honestly very sweet under layers of cynicism.

Side piece: Has kinks weird enough it bears mentioning as like a personality feature, gets excited to solve a math problem, may be verse, knows weird shit about animals and/or bugs in particular and will tell you when you didn’t ask, tries to swim like a mermaid in the public pool. Verse.

Middle piece: First off, a b o t t o m, spoiled rotten, either has way too much energy or is depressed with no middle gears, externally much more chipper than the Corner Piece people but inside absolute chaotic evil. Never to be trusted with anything.

Bonus options

No preference: Pure chaos, no impulse control, has at least 3 hyperfixations and is dying to infodump, has lots of people they talk to but not sure if friends??? Piles 60 tasks their plate and accomplishes 0 by the deadline. Also a bottom.

More concerned with eating brownies in systematic order: So fucking tired of everything, trying to make sense of a chaotic world, steps over cracks and gaps in sidewalks, gives so much side-eye their face got stuck that way. Verse.

@adigitalmagician got super called out by this post

I really did.

(No preference/side piece. Yes, both are true.)

systematic order… thats so fucking accurate damn

This is fucking accurate.

I feel so exposed

I have a large Christmas market coming up this weekend so I created an ad on Facebook advertising the event and the fact that I would be there. It’s branded with my logo.

The amount of people that have messaged me asking: if they can still be part of the event, if Santa tickets are still available, how can they get a table….

Not to mention the amount of vendors participating that have reblogged it advertising their own businesses! It’s made me chuckle. I mean it has my logo on it and says “Sundara at such and such event” so really they’re advertising FOR me.

But under every one of these circumstances I’m pretty sure that not one of those people read the ad or the accompanying copy. It’s amazing. But go ahead. Share my ad man lol.

I did a full moon releasing ceremony tonight. It definitely helped make me feel better.

I finally made it into the studio and got some work done. I’m tired now. I’m gonna head to bed and work on my orders tomorrow.

We had a planned (apparently) power outage today from 9-3 which means I lost a whole day of work. I’m now feeling tired and shitty and I’m trying to coerce myself into going into the studio and making up for lost time. I’m not doing a great job of it.

When I was four years old my little best friend died. We were best friends inasmuch as we were the two youngest kids inthe neighbourhood, we lived next door to each other and therefore naturally played together a lot. She got gastroenteritis one day and they took her to the hospital and she died that night.

I know my parents explained to me that she died but at four, I really didn’t understand the concept. One day shortly after, her mom and my mom were talking over the fence. From their hushed tones and the energy between then I could tell it was serious. I approached them tentatively and in a small voice, asked her mother when she was coming home.

Her mother turned time with the saddest expression I’ve ever seen on anyone’s face and said, “Oh honey, she isn’t coming back.”

I turned and walked away, aware that by asking I had somehow made things worse. I felt sad and confused. I also think at that point I began to understand that death was final.

Gia and I used play on the swing set in their front yard. After she died I would go over there alone and swing by myself. I felt, somehow, that it would comfort them that I would still come. I didn’t want the empty swing set to be a permanent reminder that she was gone.

We moved away not long after. They adopted another child, a son (they had an older daughter) and are still together, still living in the same house.

I don’t know of it’s the full moon or the retrograde or what but i feeling really, really, really shitty. It’s like PMS X depression X anxiety X 1000. This does not feel good.

Apparently tonight is the night that I have to spend fifteen minutes scrolling past one ridiculously long post that’s been reblogged thirty times. Sigh. Take your arguments off the dash people.

I had a long, loooooooong meeting today that left me feeling wiped out. I just put two steaks on to marinate. We’re having a quiet anniversary dinner tonight. Hopefully I’ll stay awake.

Well only one of the pieces I put in the kiln broke but I can actually fix it. So I guess I’ll get on that since I won’t be making any ear hooks.

My supplier sent me the wrong gauge of wire. The one on the left is supposed to be 20 gauge, the one on the right 21. 21 is thinner than 20. Someone seriously fucked up. I’m pissed becasue my other order of wire ended up somewhere else and has been delayed. So I’m out of silver ear hook wire. Today has been trying my damn nerves.

That’s what I’m sayin’ man

@jeffthehardway

I just put some metal clay pieces in the kiln and I accidentally shook the container they were in and I’m really hoping I didn’t break them. That would be three hours of work gone down the drain. It’s not worth it to repair them when they break. Easier to make new pieces. Fingers crossed, I’ll find out in the morning. It’s almost midnight I’m going to take a shower and get to bed.

thepowerwithin:

“Forgive yourself. Forgive your friends. Forgive your family. Just, forgive. Life is too precious to hold onto negative energy for any longer than it’s needed.”

— Nicole Addison @thepowerwithin

There’s someone who passes behind the kitchen in the back of my mom’s house. I’ve seen him several times and so has she. He doesn’t look like a spirit but whenever you try to follow him he’s gone. And of course there’s no where for a real person to disappear in the back there. He doesn’t feel scary in any way, just going about his business. And he’s not my dad either. I don’t know who he is but he’s not scaring me. There’s a lot of activity on that side of the house lately. That’s where I saw the fairies. Maybe something opened up.

onlinecounsellingcollege:

1. Treat yourself the way you would treat a person who you loved, highly valued, and cared about.

2. Always love yourself – no matter what!

3. Only say positive, compassionate, understanding and affirming things about, and to, yourself.

4. Hold your own hand in tough and stressful times. Don’t abandon yourself, or let yourself down.

5. Respect yourself, and the efforts that you’re making to be a better person, and to change and to grow.

6. Understand your limitations, be patient with yourself. Accept that it takes time to master anything at all.

7. Be kind to yourself when you feel self-critical, or you want to be judgmental and hard on yourself.

thepowerwithin:

“Being born a natural is only half of the equation to success; one must also have unwavering passion and desire towards improvement.”

— Nicole Addison @thepowerwithin

OMG everyone on GBBO was crying this week! I felt it for them. I also thought my favourite was going home but they didn’t yay!

15. In what ways are you an expert?

I’m not really an expert on anything except myself to be honest. I wouldn’t claim expertise on anything else…the older I get the more I realise I don’t know much of anything.

10. Favorite snacks

We eat a lot of popcorn, gummi bears mostly stuff like that. I love cheddar cheese and green apple slices. Good old cheese and crackers. I enjoy potato chips although I can’t eat too many of them.

They’re for cutting wire. The blades are angled so that they cut in a perfectly straight (or flush) line.

@chippinawayatlife

I mean yeah if she had asked if never have said no. But yeah she didn’t. But I also think in the grand scheme of things, this is not something I should waste my time getting upset about.

@onlyonemee

little voice

I threw away a pair of brand new flush cutters the other day.

I had ordered them with something else and didn’t see them tucked away in the corner of the package.

The next day I spied the packaging in the trash and little voice in the back of my head told me to check the packaging again. So I obeyed, not really looking for anything. And there they were. Wrapped in cardboard stuck to the side.

They’re not expensive, but I’ve been meaning to buy myself a new pair for over a year now. I was really excited about them because new tools! Imagine if I’d just ignored that voice. They cut like butter by the way, I shouldn’t have waited so long to get em.

Change is in the air. I mean, things are always changing. At least in my life they are. But I feel I’m going to be turning a corner soon to a path I really, really want to move toward. 

I’m finally putting a bunch of my shit from the past to rest. I’ve been stuck for a long time where certain things are concerned. I found a way to change the narrative of my story. It’s beyond time I stopped identifying with that version of myself.

I need to have a little more fun in my life. I work so much I don’t know what to do with myself when I’m not working. But I love my work so much I don’t feel the need to do other things. Until I do them.

I could eat a Cinnabon right about now.

I can’t find a new avi that I like. This is annoying me.

fashionable-gamer:

Ever notice how when justifying a child’s misbehavior no one ever says stuff like “girls will be girls” or “she’s a girl”, but the list of things a “young lady” can’t do is almost endless?

You learn from a young age that masculinity comes with freedom; femininity comes with restrictions.

soul8love:

The key to long-term relationships is letting someone be different today than they were yesterday.

I think one of the main reasons for divorce is that couples don’t always create the emotional space between them to allow for constant and continuous change. When people say, “We grew apart,” it’s often a sign that when they entered the marriage, their emotional contract didn’t include this clause:

“I’ll let you grow. You’ll let me grow. We’ll learn from each other, and we can grow together.”

~Marianne Williamson

13. Post gifs representing: the year you were born, where you currently live, and your mood for today

9. What’s on your travel bucket list? Is there anywhere you have been that you think everyone should visit?

I mean what isn’t? At the top of the list is Paris. After that anything goes. I think I haven’t seen enough of South America and I’d love to do some more exploring there. I’d also like to visit some of my ancestor’s lands… Portugal, China, Australia, Ireland, Northern India, West and North Africa. 

Where have I been that I think everyone should visit? Maui.

Me: Something something husband-
Her: You have a husband? But you look like such a baby you don’t look old enough to have a husband.
Me: I’m 45.
Me inside: 

Why do trini dj’s have to put on Jamaican accents? Yuh cyah say dat in yuh own accent and make it sound cool?

I think one of my biggest pet peeves is people who stop in pathways, doorways or hallways to talk, being completely unaware that they’re blocking other people. Omg.

There’s a good bit of people with dreadlocks at this night market. Some are black but some are Indian, white (or at least what passes for White in Trinidad), some Indian, others mixed.

I don’t come from a culture that has a problem with people wearing hairstyles from other cultures. Indian people wear corn rows here, Chinese people have dreads. We’re all Caribbean people, it belongs to all of us.

But I still have a problem with non-Black people of other cultures wearing them.

I designed a logo as a favour for someone. It had a tree in it. Another friend had a logo with a tree in it. Completely different style of illustration, totally different colour schemes, different types of fonts, layout, everything.

Second friend called me and asked if I designed it because she felt it looked like hers. I was really surprised because aside from both having a tree element they look nothing alike. Is it that only one person should use trees? She said she wasn’t mad but why all me then? I brushed her off. My client asked for it, that’s what I gave her. Yes she knows the other and her logo. They’re not in the same line of work. I honestly don’t see why it should matter.

I realise every time I post something about the problematic behavior of a friend, it’s the same friend. I’ve put a good bit of distance between us in the past few months. I don’t have to cut her out of my life but I realise that I was overlooking too many things that kept niggling at me. I still like her a lot. But we can’t be close.

I went to a movie with a girlfriend a while back. One of the characters was an obviously gay man and she made several disparaging remarks about him that struck me as homophobic. The thing about this that had me so confused is that she’s bi and identifies as part of the lgbt community. But she remarked on his perceived femininity and just general… gayness. I was really shocked and still find myself confused. Does she have an issue with gay men? With feminine gay men? I couldn’t articulate my feelings at the time so I haven’t had a conversation with her about it but it really bothered me.

I decided to take a break from work and now I can’t get off the bed. Send help.

tinsnip:

froborr:

tinsnip:

Don’t assume malice. Assume ignorance. Life is easier, the world is kinder, and you can educate. Actual malice is pretty rare, I find. 

Always remember Hanlon’s Razor–”Never assume malice when incompetence will suffice as an explanation.”

That’s said, never forget Fred Clark’s Law, either: “Sufficiently advanced incompetence is indistinguishable from malice.” There’s a certain point at which ignorance becomes malice–at which there is simply no way to become that ignorant except deliberately and maliciously.

Time to cross-stitch!

Why do people who don’t know you friend you on FB? We have one friend in common and never met, why would you add me? Do people just collect “friends”? I’m so puzzled by this. And it’s not just men, women do it too.

The amount of times I am scrolling past someone’s business page on facebook and I have to resist the urge to message them about how horrible their logo is. I don’t want to insult them… I want to help redesign them.

lessthanimpressedlesbian:

meanmisscharles:

mens-rights-activia:

I think for a lot of white people, when you call them out on their casual racism (microagressions and non-overt things), they see it as a case of hurt feelings from your point of view as opposed to a discussion of harmful practices that aid the vehicle of racism. So in response, they take it as a personal attack, rather than a learning experience, and go on the defensive by bringing up a time that you made them upset as leverage. Or they defend their actions by doubling down on the behavior at hand and dismissing your criticism as over sensitivity and emphasizing their “harmless” intent. And I think that is one of the reasons why it’s so hard to address casual and interpersonal racism with the general white population (and also other poc tbh).

I think white people NEED to read this and let it sink way deep down inside them.

Most people think racism is an individual thing, when in reality it’s an entire system

My anxiety was really high and I was feeling out of sorts all day today. I’m ok now but I have no idea what it was about. 

I have a bunch of scrap gold jewelry my mom gave me yesterday. I’ve wanted to use gold accents on some of my pieces for a long time. I asked her if she had any throwaway jewelry and she gave me enough to last me for a long time.

I’m gonna melt a few pieces and see how they fare. I’m pretty sure some aren’t really gold but some are. I only need a tiny bit. 

I bought some diamonds the other day and now I have some gold to work with… I feel like I’m upping my game here. 

I feel really accomplished today. 

I finished a stock list of some pieces I had laying around forever that I needed to send to one of my retailers.

I finished and packaged two orders that I have to mail out tomorrow.

And most importantly I tackled some earrings that have been sitting on my desk for over a year now. I altered the design and will be setting some new stones in them tomorrow so I can take them to another of my retailers. I never liked them and I just tossed them aside and it always bugged me that they were just there all this time. I’m glad I’m finally doing something about them.

I don’t know what part of call me before you arrive means call me when you’re outside my house.

somecutething:

There’s a music festival all the way in April I’m looking to sell at. I did it this year and it went well. I’m thinking next year we can actually camp out for the weekend. There’s a seller package that will cover the cost of both me and Chris for the table and camping. 

They want the downpayment at the end of this month. 

Six months in advance??

This is the time of year when people are investing all their money in supplies for Christmas. Sales at the end of summer are usually pretty terrible also. So we’re usually kinda skint right now. And now is when you’re asking for the money? 

Honestly I feel really tired of dealing with people who give no thought to their vendors. Last year they only promoted the musical acts, none of the vendors. Now this? Fuck give us some thought please.

thepowerwithin:

More posts daily for you right here! 🙂

I think for the rest of existence we can retire that “woman is the n-word of the world” quote. It’s always been profoundly fucking offensive.