Me: God I’m hungry again

Me: What time do you have to eat dinner so that you’re not hungry later?

Me: How do people eat dinner at 7 o’clock and not get hungry again?

Self: Most people do not stay up until 1 in the morning Natasha.

Me: Oh yeah

briannatheloner:

I wasn’t going to speak about this but since its made its way to the Black Panther tag, I guess I gotta defend my movie. 

A troll account made multiple post suggesting that people (mainly black women) should boycott Black Panther because of the fact that Michael B. Jordan is dating a latino woman. 

This made its way to Twitter and of course (just like everything else) it became a big ass argument about double standards on interracial dating and trolling from Black Men. 

In no way, does this mean that black women should stop supporting this movie. Michael has had a history of saying sketchy stuff but he had never BLANTLY slandered black women before. And he debunked the “he doesn’t date black women” rumor a month or two ago. 

I believe someone made this account because they knew that it would cause an uproar and because everyone knows Black Panther comes out in a couple of weeks. 

The fact that it had to even come down to him being the 3rd trend was crazy. 

butchcommunist:

anarchists-for-big-government:

girllenin:

Oh it is? Okay apologies I’ll go edit them

Here’s the problem with this. AAVE is not this completely separate dialect and culture that does not overlap at all with Standard* American English and mainstream American culture. Words, phrases, and styles developed by black American speakers filter and diffuse into the mainstream dialect. If white people weren’t allowed to use AAVE, we’d also have to get rid of words like “cool” and “rock’n’roll”. Do some white people use AAVE to mock and insult black people? Of course, and they’re racist scumfucks and need to be called out when they do it. But to genuinely adopt phrases used by black speakers because you find them useful and enjoyable in your speaking, is not racist or “appropriation.” And furthermore, for the vast majority of words and phrases, this happened naturally, without anyone consciously thinking to themselves “this is AAVE”. They just learned a new word or phrase, found it useful or cool, and started using it. When “hella” spread around the American dialect, very few people consciously thought “Bay Area young people invented this”, They just heard it and started using it, because that’s how language evolves.

Alright here’s the deal. Using bits and pieces of AAVE isn’t cultural appropriation. It just isn’t. First of all, AAVE speakers regularly come into contact with non-AAVE speakers and AAVE leaks its way into mainstream English use. To imply that they don’t is ridiculous. That’s the first problem here.

The second problem here is that “appropriation” is used entirely wrongly and entirely too often on this site. Cultural appropriation should only be used to refer to when one group (usually white people) CLAIMS the creation of another group as its own. That’s it. If it doesn’t fit that definition, it isn’t appropriation. And here’s why!

The third problem, and the reason people need to stop fucking using “appropriation” as a term so loosely on this site is because it allows us to ignore instances of racism by calling them something else- a more technical, academic seeming term. So

• If you use another culture’s speaking pattern as a joke, that isn’t cultural appropriation. That’s being a racist. You’re literally making a joke about how other people talk. That’s racism. Not appropriation. RACISM. We have a word for that already.
• If you use another culture’s sacred symbology or something like that, it isn’t appropriation. It’s being clueless at best and thoughtless/insensitive at worst. It isn’t appropriation. The basic problem there is not theft of another culture’s items: the basic problem is not participating in a culture on that culture’s terms.
• If you use another culture as a prop or a joke, that isn’t appropriation. It’s racism. You’re pointing at a group and laughing. That’s just racism. Let’s not call it something else. Miley Cyrus isn’t appropriating black culture. She’s making fun of it. That’s racism. Easy.
• If you use another culture’s symbology inaccurately, again that isn’t appropriation. It’s being thoughtless and inconsiderate but it isn’t appropriation.
• If it isn’t one group claiming it created something it isn’t, then it isn’t appropriation.

There are several problems with insisting that white people participating in AAVE even in small portions is appropriation. 1- it lets white people off the hook for instances of actual racism by calling it something else, something which seems less intentional than it really is. 2- it assumes that white people already have a frame of reference for everything and should never have to refer to other cultures for ideas/concepts. That second idea is fucked up because:

1. It assumes that white/mainstream/Western culture understands everything already. That’s literally just colonialism wrapped up in a nice liberal package people can use to pat themselves on the back.
2. It ignores the fact that white culture (using that loosely, but I’m sure most people understand what I mean by this) actually doesn’t have a way to express everything. For example, “—- game strong” says more than just “you —- look[s] good.” There is no approximation in standard English. Standard English is not a perfect, all-encompassing language.

TLDR: use of AAVE in bits and pieces is not appropriation, and outside of tumblr I know very few black people who actually consider it to be appropriation. If you use it poorly, you’re just misinformed and will probably be laughed at. If you mock it, you’re just a racist. Stop calling every single instance of two cultures interacting “appropriation” because it allows us to ignore the fact that many times when people on here use it, we are referring to instances of racism and letting the racism itself go unaddressed by not calling it what it is. I only know a few black people ON tumblr who consider use of AAVE phrases to be appropriative or racist, and quite frankly I think that view 1- is simplistic and makes no sense and 2- would be laughed off by most black people who hadn’t been steeped in that narrative.

internalrenovations:

halloweendream:

left-hand-path-notes:

soshesawildflowerxo:

rainbowsociety:

1. Do you ever doubt the existence of others than you?

2. On a scale of 1-5, how afraid of the dark are you?

3. The person you would never want to meet?

4. What is your favorite word?

5. If you were a type of tree, what would you be?

6. When you looked in the mirror this morning what was the first thing you thought?

7. What shirt are you wearing?

8. What do you label yourself as?

9. Bright room or dark room?

10. What were you doing at midnight last night?

11. Favorite age you’ve been so far?

12. Who told you they loved you last?

13. Your worst enemy?

14. What is your current desktop picture?

15. Do you like someone?

16. The last song you listened to?

17. You can press a button that will make any one person explode. Who would you blow up?

18. Who would you really like to just punch in the face?

19. If anyone could be your slave for a day, who would it be and what would they have to do?

20. What is your best physical attribute? (showing said attribute is optional)

21. If you were the opposite sex for one day, what would you look like and what would you do?

22. Do you have a secret talent? If yes, what is it?

23. What is one unique thing you’re afraid of?

24. You can only have one kind of sandwich. Every sandwich ingredient known to humankind is at your disposal.

25. You just found $100! How are you going to spend it?

26. You just got a free plane ticket to anywhere in the world, but you have to leave immediately. Where are you going to go?

27. An angel appears out of Heaven and offers you a lifetime supply of the alcoholic beverage of your choice. “Be brand-specific” it says. Man! What are you gonna say about that? Even if you don’t drink booze there’s something you can figure out… so what’s it gonna be?

28. You discover a beautiful island upon which you may build your own society. You make the rules. What is the first rule you put into place? 

29. What is your favorite expletive?

30. Your house is on fire, holy shit! You have just enough time to run in there and grab ONE inanimate object. Don’t worry, your loved ones and pets have already made it out safely. So what’s the one thing you’re going to save from that blazing inferno?

31. You can erase any horrible experience from your past. What will it be?

32. You got kicked out of the country for being a time-traveling heathen who sleeps with celebrities and has super-powers. But check out this cool shit… you can move to anywhere else in the world!

33. The Celestial Gates Of Beyond have opened, much to your surprise because you didn’t think such a thing existed. Death appears. As it turns out, Death is actually a pretty cool entity, and happens to be in a fantastic mood. Death offers to return the friend/family-member/person/etc. of your choice to the living world. Who will you bring back?

34. What was your last dream about?

35. Are you a good….[insert anything you’d like here]?

36. Have you ever been admitted to the hospital?

37. Have you ever built a snowman?

38. What is the color of your socks?

39. What type of music do you like?

40. Do you prefer sunrises or sunsets?

41. What is your favorite milkshake flavor?

42. What football team do you support? (I will answer in terms of American football as well as soccer)

43. Do you have any scars?

44. What do you want to be when you graduate?

45. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?

46. Are you reliable?

47. If you could ask your future self one question, what would it be?

48. Do you hold grudges?

49. If you could breed two animals together to defy the laws of nature, what new animal would you create?

50. What is the most unusual conversation you’ve ever had?

51. Are you a good liar?

52. How long could you go without talking?

53. What has been you worst haircut/style?

54. Have you ever baked your own cake?

55. Can you do any accents other than your own?

56. What do you like on your toast?

57. What is the last thing you drew a picture of?

58. What would be you dream car?

59. Do you sing in the shower? Or do anything unusual in the shower? Explain.

60. Do you believe in aliens?

61. Do you often read your horoscope?

62. What is your favorite letter of the alphabet?

63. Which is cooler: dinosaurs or dragons?

64. What do you think about babies?

65. Freebie! Ask anything interesting you can think of.

Go go

Please for the love of satan, ask me these

If anybody’s feeling asky.

I asked and was answered therefore I offer also to answer.

I was reading this article the other day that was basically saying that when non-Black people use Black gifs for reactions on social media (like a yaaasssqueen!.gif) that it’s a form of blackface. 

I skimmed through it and it was saying that Blacks and non-Blacks alike tend to prefer using Black people reaction gifs and it was basically cautioning against stereotypes.

I can’t say that I’ve ever been offended to see anyone who wasn’t Black use a gif of a Black person. But the whole cultural appropriation issue is not really an issue in my culture so I’m not sensitive to it in the way an African American person would be. Nor do I see myself reflected in any of those gifs as it is not my culture. But it just kind of got me wondering if it’s something that offends people. Or if non-Black people ever hesitate to use it. Or are we just all taking ourselves a little too seriously again?

I had a long talk with my mom today and a theme kept coming up, of letting go of people who can’t make the effort to be in your life. 

I know we both experienced that after my Dad died, in particular with his side of the family. My mom had issues with certain members of my Dad’s family so she really didn’t expect them to maintain contact much after he passed away. But I didn’t have any such issues, and basically after he died they just all fucked off. 

It was hurtful and confusing at the time. But I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt and just figured they were busy, giving us time to adjust… whatever. But over the past few years, certain things have taken place which have lead me to believe we’ve been deliberately ignored and left out of key family events. I did not share my mother’s outrage on our behalf at the time (middle child, ever the peacemaker) but at this point, I say fuck them. We have always been closer to my mother’s side anyway and they have always been there for us. 

We also got to talking about female friends. Like me, my mom’s never had a ton of luck in that area, and probably for a lot of the same reasons. I told her that after the past year of trying, it seems that I have to let go of my friendship with one of my oldest female friends. She’s always “busy” and never available lately and my gut tells me that this distance is deliberate. I have a few theories as to why but none of it is my responsibility to fix. So I am just going to give up and say fuck it too. Because I’ve flat out asked her if anything was wrong and she said no. So there’s nothing else I can do.

Then she brought up Gary and Roger, my two best friends who I’ve known for about 25 years (they’ve been friends with each other even longer). Not only have they been there for me through thick and thin, they’ve been there for my family. On his deathbed, my father (who bitched about them a lot over the years) thanked them for being such faithful and loyal friends to me. It meant the world to me that he was finally able to see what I valued in them, and that he told them so. It was very meaningful to them too. My mother of course has always loved them to bits.

I think I have been fortunate in my life to have had genuine friends who deeply love me. And if that does not hold true for certain members of my family, I have to accept that and release it. And if a friendship has come to its end I have to do the same. It always hurts. It always makes me sad. But there is grace in acceptance, and I would rather focus my energy on those who make me feel cherished. I have no need for something that doesn’t want me.

I wonder when they made up that list of activists to invite to the Golden Globes why they didn’t put Rose McGowan on it. She was the one who started all of this. If she’d never spoken out there likely wouldn’t even have been a movement. She seems to have been cut out of everything.

As a former art director, I cannot conceive of being so inattentive that I would allow a Black child to be photographed in a sweatshirt with the words “Coolest Monkey In The Jungle.” It’s your fucking JOB to pay attention to the smallest details of a photoshoot. Furthermore, that photograph had to have passed through a slew of people before it was approved and placed on their website. And still it appeared there. So either there are only white people who have their heads up their asses working at H&M’s UK offices, or they were being deliberately racist. Either way shame on them.

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/the-weeknd-quits-hm-deal-over-racist-ad_us_5a53e396e4b003133ecb5f90

stuffie-kitten:

sanctuarywitch:

witchofthefuture:

witchofthefuture:

septiplie-der-pool:

glory-of-hera:

samurai-ko:

loganmcowen:

xaldien:

loganmcowen:

Of fucking course

What sick bastard doesn’t

“You’d be surprised”, said Xaldien, who just lost four followers and received a lovely “men can’t be raped” anon shortly after reblogging this the first time.

Yowch, disgusting.

If I don’t reblog this, assume I’m dead.

Always reblog this

If you Dont reblog this if u see it then i cant call u my friend

IF ANYONE TELLS ME THAT MEN CAN’T BE VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND RAPE, I AM SICKENED BY THEIR MERE PRESENCE ON MY BLOG.

If you disagree with me, unfollow my blog, block me and never look at my blog again.

If you want to debate about this or send anon’s about this, I will reply but your actions have consequences.

Out of 19000+ followers I have, only one of you actually reblogged about this issue, yet a lot of you have reblogged and liked a picture by playboy about catcalling and that how men should never do it.

Additionally, I have received abuse in my ask box (which I will be answering when I can) and threats. In particular death threats and rape threats.

I can see the real problem here already. Male domestic violence and rape is just invisible in our society because we don’t want to talk about this because it just damages the status quo of this fucking website.

I’m a male victim of child sexual abuse. We matter. Please, reblog this.

Please never forget male victims are real and it can happen to everyone/anyone

Crap. I just called my mom and I forgot she was in California and not in Miami and I woke her up. She moves around so much I can barely ever remember where she is at any given time. Ugh. I told her to go back to sleep and I’ll call her later.

furiousgoldfish:

One of the features of abusive family environment is not being allowed to talk about past events. It’s unwritten law that you’re not supposed to mention that one time when your parent screamed at you, swore and called you slurs, broke something of yours, hit you, threw something at you, threw a tantrum and punished you when you did nothing wrong, failed to support you, failed to acknowledge you as a person, dismissed all that you do like it doesn’t matter. If you mention it, and acknowledge that it’s a thing that happened, and something they’ve done, you’re risking them doing it all over agian, just to “teach you better than to mention such thing”. 

It’s normal in abusive environments to always continue as if nothing happened, as if what happened was just some kind of isolated incident that is probably not going to happen again, and you’re scared to cause it again by mentioning it. I’ve seen abusive parents throw unbeliveable amount of rage, threats and violence at their children, disappear for a while, then come back with a smile like nothing at all happened, like the event before wasn’t even real for them, making you feel like you could have just imagined it all. Children would be just so relived that the rage is over, they wouldn’t dare to mention it again, they just wanted it to not repeat. The fear of abuser gets overwhelming to the point where holding them accountable isn’t even a priority anymore, you’re not even expecting an apology or guilt over what they’ve done, you just end up feeling confused and helpless and hope to god they don’t explode again. You focus on tiptoeing around them and praying not to trigger another outburst, feeling like it could be your fault if it happens again. 

These “incidents” are never isolated or accidental, abuser can bring them on whenever they want, to get more fear and control over the household, and they know it. They’re using the outbursts intentionally to keep the rest of the family on their toes, scared and ready to obey out of fear. They know they’ll get more tiptoeing and leeway and get away with anything and get special treatment as a reward for abusive behaviour. 

Other way I’ve seen abusers deal with this is to pretend as if they’re too ashamed or too guilty to talk about those things, and everyone should stop reminding them as they already feel bad enough, of course they’re going to say it angrily, so you know that calling them out is dangerous, and then of course, do the abusive behaviour over, and over again, making is extremely doubtful about just how guilty they feel. If a person experiences guilt and shame after their behaviour, it’s unlikely they will repeat it, because it would hurt them too, so if they do repeat it, it’s more likely that their “guilt” was just a lie.

I actually thought every family had such “secrets” they’re not allowed to mention and it was common to not bring up the dirty laundry on other family members, until I heard a friend chat with their mom about something messed up that happened years and years in the past. I was shocked to hear that to them it was a completely normal thing to talk about, there wasn’t a thing that was forbidden to mention! Mentioning past events wasn’t used against anyone or to hurt anyone, it was just something to learn from and analyze and discuss, and this is normal for all events, everything should be talked about.

Silence is a form of control. Controlling the appearance of the family. Controlling the narrative. When you break the silence you are punished or shamed and the focus is now on you as the person with whom something is wrong. You become the problem now not the abuser. And you get abused for opening your big fat mouth. In families with abuse there’s a simple understanding of what we do not talk about. It was never spoken outright. You just know better than to bring it up. Or else.

bint-nuh:

You know what strength is?
Forgiving a person who wasn’t even sorry.

Bijou

Bijou has been coming around a little more regularly. They still have not replaced her collar or tags. I just fed her some tuna. I can’t seem to find the small bags of food I usually buy her. I prefer that over the large ones because I don’t want it getting stale since I never know when she’ll be around.

I don’t think her owners feed her enough. She’s back to the skinny look she had when she first started coming around. I’m going to fatten her up again to where she looks healthy. I wish I’d taken down the number on her tag when she had it. I’d like to find out who she belongs to. I can’t confront them about their care of her but it might give me some ideas about why she seems underfed and neglected.

Here lies Natasha. She was just going down the road to get her some food.

Hah! Sounds about right.

Bijou (neighbour cat) came by today. She looked a little scraggly and thin but ok otherwise. I’m glad she’s alright. Also she answered to Bijou for the first time which was cool 😎

rosegold-lover:

newvagabond:

infiniteragequit:

sothisistherapy:

ericfvckingharris:

Growing up in an abusive household is a fucking trip dude……If you’ve never had someone angrily wash a dish at you or fold a sock in your direction then how are you gonna understand why I get nervous when you quietly do the laundry, or why I ask “are you mad at me?” when you set the bag of groceries down too hard? It’s a totally different way of living and it impacts you long after you’ve left the situation.

This is so important.

Abused kids speak a language you can’t learn

My heart races when I hear someone sigh and then the adrenaline takes forever to wear off. I hate having these reactions even when I know I am safe.

It really is the tiniest things that trigger me and ppl seem to think I’m exaggerating.

bigchiefatl:

techtonicactivity:

spintowin:

she’s out there making owl noises

who

Rebloging for the gif

niqabisinparis:

You ever look back and wonder why you allowed yourself to be disrespected so much, allowed so much unnecessary suffering for the sake of validation? It seems so off from the person you thought you were, and it’s painful and embarrassing to remember how little self respect you had to allow someone to treat you that way.

myheartisblackandblue:

The worst distance…

The worst distance between two people is misunderstanding.

1. I’m finally getting around to watching Search Party. How did this escape my notice before?
2. I’m all socialized out. I’ve spent 4 of the past 7 days in the company of other people and one of my friends wants to get together tomorrow night and I am just so over it.
3. An acquaintance I saw today reminded me that people love me (and therefore want to be in my company). That put things into perspective. So I guess I can suck it up and go.
4. I’m back in the studio on Monday and I’m already feeling the stress building. 
5. I have an interview with a reporter on Wednesday. I’m not holding my breath that this will come to fruition but it would be cool if it did.

Chrome asked me to quit and restart for some reason today and when I did I lost ALL my bookmarks. I had to back them up from the Safari ones I had which was from years ago. All my autofill passwords are out of date too. I’ve spent the last few hours reconfiguring Chrome to get it back to a usable status. I’m so fucking pissed. 

I haven’t seen Bijou in awhile…. the neighbor’s cat. They call her something else but it’s a terribly unflattering name for such a pretty cat so I ignore it. I haven’t seen her since before New Years. I really hope she’s ok. I would hate for anything to have happened to her.

We lost our dog Lulu to fireworks some years ago. Came home and she had disappeared, terrified from the noise, she escaped and ran off. Never came back.

Actually we gained a dog that way many years before that too. A fat, aging golden retriever named Suzy (through trial and error we found that was what she responded to). She just showed up one New Years morning and camped out in front of our gate. Eventually we let her in. No one ever came looking for her so we kept her. She lived out the rest of her life with us until my parents had to put her down in her old age.

I just hope Bijou is safe. I would be heartbroken if anything happened to her. She’s a sweetheart of a cat and I’d miss her terribly.

• I put on about 10 lbs over the holiday season. Some of it has already dropped off. I plan to start an exercise regimen (for my back specifically) once I’m done with my vacation. It’s not for losing weight but it will help.
• I have truly been enjoying my vacation. I really needed it. It’s been a tough year and I worked really hard without any breaks. It paid off. And I’m enjoying the reward.
• I’m kind of having a bit of a hard time wrapping my mind around the fact that I’m 45. It’s kinda like when I turned 40. You know it’s coming but it still feels like a shock. I guess I’ll ease into it.
• My two best friends decided last night that 11pm was a good time to come hang out for my birthday. I was toast by then and told them not to bother. I don’t know why they cannot get their shit together and get out of the house at a reasonable hour. We are not 23 anymore.
• Some of Chris’s old friends that I’ve known since our teens are having a lime this evening. The guys are already down there smoking the meat. I’m feeling fucked up still from yesterday but I’m looking forward to spending time with everyone. I wish we saw each other more often. They’re like family and I love them all. I better start hydrating.

Thank you! It was yesterday and I had a really fun day.

I did Hun! I’m still recovering. Thank you ❤️

Aw thank you so much for this! No beagle in sight yet but I know it will materialize one day. I’ve been wanting once since I was a teenager. I can wait a few more years 🙂

Thank you guys so much for all comments on my birthday picture yesterday. I had a really wonderful day and will post some pictures later.

Turned out the ceremony was short and the wedding reception was a lot of fun. Plus one of my good friends called me from NYC and invited me to come visit sometime. If I go we’re doing a meetup ok y’all? Ok.

Rain stopped. The wedding is still on. I’m wearing the one dress that fits me at every size. I’m feeling fat today. But it always gives me the perfect silhouette. I have on a cardigan for the Church part.

not today

It’s been raining nonstop today. Which would be lovely if I didn’t have a wedding to go to.

I hate it when people throw things like weddings around this time of the year. All anyone wants to do is stay in bed.

It could be worse. My cousin got married on New Year’s Day some years ago. That sucked.

But yeah I really really really do not feel like going to this thing today. Maybe they’ll cancel on account of floods. Jesus I’m wishing for floods now what is wrong with me.

what’s your favorite thing to do outside?
Walk barefoot in the grass.

do you like camping?
I do. I used to really love it but it’s become less appealing mostly because I kind of need comfort more than adventure these days

what would you spend $1,000 on?
Is this free money or my own? My immediate thought is travel but I’d likely be more practical about it and invest it back in my business or Chris’s farm.

what’s your job, or what do you want to do as your job? I make artisanal jewelry. I love what I do. But I’d also like to expand what I do in a lot of different directions. I’d like to teach again. I’m interested in doing a craft oriented tv show. I have a ton of things on my mind

what’s your favorite article of clothing? I think I answered this in the last one. A pair of leggings. I also have a very soft, very cozy broken in sweater I’ve had since seventh grade that I rarely wear but love so much.

blue:

what do you do when you’re sad?
Distract myself. Watch tv or a good movie, read cards, meditate or go out and be among friends

what are some things you do when you can’t sleep?
It doesn’t happen often, but I’ll usually read, watch a movie, or scroll Tumblr

what was the best (non-romantic) night you’ve had?
Ever? Geez I can’t remember but I can safely say it was likely a night spent with my closest friends where we talked, played music, sang… those are always good nights.

what kind of covers do you have on your bed?
Sheets and two blankets

who is the last person you told a secret to?
Hm. I can’t remember. I really don’t have a lot of secrets. People tend to tell me theirs more often.

orange:
what makes you feel warm inside?
Moments where I see the beauty in humanity. Kindness, generosity, selflessness.

what’s your favorite halloween tradition?
I don’t really have any it’s not something we really celebrate here.

what’s the last thing you learned?
That setting concrete goals is something that really works for me.

when’s the last time you felt obsessed?
When I started experimenting with resin jewelry

what’s your favorite article of clothing?
A pair of black leggings I’m pretty sure will soon be on their last legs because I wear them as much as I can because they’re so comfortable.

kara-lesbihonest:

red: how was your first kiss? what do you love about yourself? when’s the last time you warmed your hands in front of a fire? would you rather watch a sunrise or sunset? what’s the best thing about summer?

orange: what makes you feel warm inside? what’s your favorite halloween tradition? what’s the last thing you learned? when’s the last time you felt obsessed? what’s your favorite article of clothing?

yellow: if you could have any view from your bedroom window what would you choose? what’s your favorite thing to do on a sunny day? what do you consider lucky? what made you smile today? what makes you happy?

green: what’s your favorite thing to do outside? do you like camping? what would you spend $1,000 on? what’s your job, or what do you want to do as your job? what’s your favorite article of clothing?

blue: what do you do when you’re sad? what are some things you do when you can’t sleep? what was the best (non-romantic) night you’ve had? what kind of covers do you have on your bed? who is the last person you told a secret to?

purple: what’s your astrological sign? what’s the best piece of advice you ever received? when’s the last time you followed your instincts? what’s your favorite food? what’s your secret dream?

onlinecounsellingcollege:

1. Breaking trust

2. Lack of respect

3. Jealousy

4. Angry outburst/ high volatility

5. Making assumptions

6. Unreasonable expectations

7. Bitterness

8. Unforgiveness

9. Being cold and uncaring

10. Failing to prioritize your partner.

I fell into the most delicious nap today and got woken out of it and now I can’t fall back asleep and like I feel like the rest of my day got thrown off.

I drove past two cars today right as they got into an accident (one rear ended the other). I didn’t realise it until I heard the bang and saw it in my rear view mirror. I felt really sorry for both of them. End of the year and you have this shit to deal with. Also I was super grateful it wasn’t me.

Then about ten minutes later I was turning off a main road onto a side street. Coast was clear and just as I turned I found myself facing another car head on and had to slam on the brakes. They’d been parked and just pulled out into the street straight into me. Fortunately we didn’t collide and I went on my way, very cautiously. I once again said a short prayer of gratitude. 

It’s that time of the year where people just do stupid shit on the roads. Y’all be extra vigilant and stay safe please. Let’s make it into 2018 in one piece.

camewiththeframe:

“Do not let what you think they think of you make you stop and question everything you are.”

-Carrie Fisher