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some of my back issues are definitely related to my hips. I have scoliosis so my right hip is much higher than my left and it throws everything off. Is it your low back that hurts? I found this low back stretcher thing on amazon and ohhhhhh myyyyyy goddddd it feels SO good to lay on it.
actually I also have scoliosis so my hips are also out of alignment, my right is also higher than my left. for me it’s a combination of things. Because of my curvature, the left side of my back does most of the work so it ends up sore and knotted on a daily basis. And because of the work I do, sitting down for hours, that doesn’t help. Send me a link to the back stretcher thing!
Yeah my hips are all sorts of tight. Pilates help me but what are you using?
I’m using a course I purchased through Daily Om called 14 Day Spinal Reset. The lessons are short but I find they’ve been addressing my issues successfully so far. I’d recommend it.
Often when people feel unloveable, it is tied into one of the following reasons:
1. As a child, a parent or authority figure either told you – or sent out the message that – you were unloveable. Because of that, you came to believe that your core self was deficient, unacceptable or inadequate. Now you find it hard to believe that anyone could ever love you for just being you.
2. You experienced rejection, desertion or abandonment in one of your closest relationships. Now love feels scary – and is a source of anxiety and fear – rather than of healing and security.
3. You feel regret for something you did, or the way you treated a person you loved. Hence, you don’t believe you deserved to be loved, or you fear you will badly hurt someone again.
4. You have developed a series of flawed beliefs which have coloured your expectations for love. For example, you may have concluded that love leads to pain …. or that no-one can be trusted … or love always ends.
5. A voice in your head says you cannot change so you don’t believe that “you have what it takes”. But none of us is perfect; we’re all on a journey; and if we choose to take a risk then we’ll find that we can change.
The spinal workout I’ve been doing for the past few days has been getting more intense every day. I woke up feeling my glutes this morning.
It’s surprised me how much of the exercises focus on hip work rather than back work. According to the instructor a lot of back pain starts in from tight muscles in the hips and thighs, which makes sense. I’ve done a lot of yoga workouts in the past that focused on the back and none of them worked this hips as much as this. We also do some great core work. I do feel that it is making a difference but i’ll see in the long run. So far I’m enjoying it. Fifteen minutes is something my concentration span can handle.
Now that’s how you ally. That’s putting it on the line and showing solidarity. That’s how you use your white privilege for good.
”It’s nice to go out and march, we can do that. It’s nice to wear black at the Golden Globes, but what are you doing behind closed doors?” – Jada Pinkett Smith
It’s easily one of the cleanest examples of intersectional feminism I’ve seen in a minute. It’s the polar opposite of white feminism, where white women are concerned primarily with the wellbeing and advancement of other white women. If more white men and women stood up and demanded basic fairness instead of just talking about it—and not just in Hollywood—we might really begin to impact racism and close the pay gap that always gets inflicted upon black people in most careers.
I don’t get why everyone is raving over the movie Lady Bird. It just felt so mundane to me. Times like these I feel I know nothing about movies. I’m just very meh about it.
Also we saw The Shape of Water yesterday. What a strange movie. I mean it was really well done, beautiful, as a del Toro always is, but the premise was just so weird. It wrapped up nicely in the end though. I think I only have two more best picture contenders to see and I’ll have completed the list.
Hey, if you were in the UK in 1994 around Christmas, and you grabbed a ride towards Scotland in a black van, and in the back of the van there was a body in a coffin, a lady with a fiddle, and another lady with a newborn, and everyone was in weirdly high spirits, and you eventually had to bail just kinda in the middle of nowhere and you hopped off and disappeared into the night, can you let me know if you’re alright?
I was the newborn and I’m really worried about you.
(Can folks share this post? I legitimately want to find this stranger, I have so many questions, and I think they do as well.)
Now with some corrections according to the lady with the fiddle!
THERE IS AN EXPLANATION. I’m so sorry for what ended up being a teaser of a post, but there is a story and it’s not INCREDIBLY WEIRD I promise.
Basically, around the time I was born one of my uncles was dying. I’ve been told that he saw how poetic it was, and that holding newborn me helped a little bit. But soon after I was born he passed away.
Now I don’t know all the details, and some of what I know might be wrong, it was 23 years ago now and I was a newborn but parts of the family (including my mum and a couple of my extended cousins) were transporting his body to Edrom, Scotland. My cousin had this van that was a huge part of her entire persona, so we loaded it up, everyone was settled, and away we went!
Everyone has their own way of dealing with loss, and if I’m entirely honest at least most of my family are the most interesting people I know. So it was kind of a really jaunty trip, everyone was in high spirits, and it was a long drive. We had to stop to refuel, it was quite late at night, and there was some bloke who wanted to hitch a ride (or we offered him a ride). Either way, we had a hitchhiker.
Now, if my cousin remembered it right, she did disclose that we had a body in the back. He was in his coffin but still. Mysterious Stranger assured that it was no problem, he’s seen a body before, it’s late, he just wants to get where he’s going.
So, the Weirdly Cheerful Road Trip continued with this new person! And I suppose it was just… too weird. Because at some point he just kinda demanded that we stop the van, he hopped out, and just… left.
And to be fair, if you managed to grab a lift with a small group of strangers with a body in a coffin, and everyone is just singing and having a grand ol’ time, it would be a bit unnerving to say the least. I certainly don’t blame him for needing to bail. But I hope he’s ok and he got where he needed to go. And now I’ve cast this frightfully specific weird post into the internet in the hope of maybe finding that person so I can be reassured that they’re ok, and they can be assured that we’re not dangerous folks. We’re just eccentric.
some of my favourite comments and tags on this
– I, I really assumed at first that this was a moody absurdist joke post.
– Probably thought he’d be off with the faeries and not be able to get back to the waking world…
– Are you faeries?
– modern camelot au
– The pre-explanation version legitimately sounds like a modern version of King Arthur’s body being taken to Avalon.
– i swear to god i thought this was some weird tumblr gothic thing
– stranger will return to you in your darkest hour of need
– yall good in the uk
– i thought this was about home alone for a second and i was really confused
– various story inspiration tags
– tbh….. goals
– this is the best missed connections ad of all time
Allison Williams Reveals What White People Ask Her About Get Out
They want the white woman to be innocent so bad. Because we as a society have been trained to protect white women thanks to white supremacy. So that’s why they keep asking. “But white womanhood is still good and pure, yes?”
At least she is aware of it.
And probably catches a lot of hate for it
I am just shaking my head at the idea of someone watching Get Out and somehow coming out of thinking this repulsive woman (The character, not the actress I mean) was a “Victim”
She’s been luring people to a fate worse than death and turning their bodies into puppets for people to control
SHE’S THE VILLAIN
She and her whole family are the villains of the film that is literally the films plot
This is like walking out of a Nightmare on Elm Street and going “Okay but Freddy Kreuger wasn’t really the BAD GUY in the film, right?”
I reblogged this earlier, and after I did I saw a bunch of people in the comments saying things along the lines of “She hung up the pictures? I didn’t notice that.”
I went back to check myself and oh yes she did. Right above her bed, and with the shot framing her as she did her search for “Top NCAA Prospects”.
She’s literally a hunter hanging her trophies up on her wall.
White folks in the comments mad that this one movie makes all white people look evil and corrupt while so many movies turn people of color into racist caricatures and stereotypes that make us look ignorant, savage, servile or childish. But when people of color say anything, we’re “looking for thing to be offended about.”
There’s so much power in words and the emotions behind them. 🌿⭐️🍃🔮Even people who speak kindly about inanimate objects—their home, their car, their computer, etc.— find that they’re improved by the good words and vibes. 💗⭐️💫 📸:@1.spiritual
#goodvibesonly
#2018goals
#fengshui
#designyourlife
#intentions
#liveinlove
I think it’s a tomato soup grilled cheese sandwich kind of night.
I ate something earlier that made me sick and I emptied the contents of my stomach.
Now that empty stomach is growling at me for some food. I swear an hour ago I never wanted to see food again. Now I’m mad hungry. Make up your fucking mind, stomach, geez.
I woke up with some back pain this morning and decided it was time I make use of a spinal exercise program I had purchased through Daily Om. It was less than ten minutes long but oh the relief! There was one exercise where you put a tennis ball (while prone) under your hip joint and rotate your bent leg out and in and that was very painful. The instructor explained that sciatic pain is usually originates from that muscle tightening up too much. I don’t know if what I have is sciatica but right now my back feels so good I feel like dancing. I’m already excited for next week’s exercise. Why did I take so long to do this? I bought it a month ago.
Before I finally realized it was the cushioned handle of a pair of pliers, I was trying to formulate a polite way of asking how a carrot or hot dog was useful in making jewelry.
Omg it totally looks like it now that you said it! LOL
And the final product! Brass hoop tassel earrings. These and others will be available at the Carnival Pop Up Shop at The Shop at The Normandie this Saturday. Let me know what colours you want!@theshop_hotelnormandie #handmadejewelry #earrings #amethyst #brass #tassel #carnival #uniquejewelry #handmade #beautiful #fashionjewelry #TT #buylocal #trinidad #caribbean #caribbeanlife #artisan #forher #tandt #abstract #sundara #customjewelry #artjewelry #trinidadandtobago #artisanjewelry #sundarajewelry
If you want a relationship that doesn’t require any work, stay in a relationship with yourself. Once you make the choice to be with another person, you’re also choosing to be in a relation that will require effort and consistency. If that’s not for you, stay single.
I was showing a girlfriend some family photos today and I showed her this. It was taken when I was about 22. One of my then-girlfriends was doing Mary Kay and asked me to come along to one of their makeover functions. This is my “after” photo. I won a cheap gold bracelet for “most improved” that day, which I took as an insult. My girlfriend today commented that I don’t look that different from then. That I took as a compliment.
I can’t sleep. I have too much stuff swirling around in my head.
This is very unlike me. My brain usually switches off before I’m ready.
I decided this year to make some serious changes in both my business and personal life. Serious sounds severe. But they’re big ones in terms of taking more control over certain things, more accountability, and facing certain responsibilities more head on as I can sometime bury my head in the sand until it’s too late to fix things. I am giving myself some time to set up the structures that will help support these changes. So right now my mind is just rolling it all around. Hence I can’t sleep and can’t concentrate on my book. The metal lethargy that overwhelmed me for the past two weeks has been replaced by focus and plans of action. I wish my brain would just cool it for the hour though. It’s getting late and I have things to do tomorrow.
Saying “no” can quite often put women in further danger. Men turn violent when they don’t get what they want very easily. Also trauma can cause people to freeze and be unable to do anything. Considering the only person responsible for a sexual assault is the one doing the assaulting, I’d say the thing is that women shouldn’t have to. It shouldn’t be my responsibility to teach someone how to not assault me.
Yes I’m fully aware of that. I did not feel that it was necessary to say women should say no in cases where it would put them in danger because I think we all understand that this happens. I am also aware that when confronted with situations such as these that women can freeze up. I addressed that in a response to my original post. My point is that while it should not be necessary to teach someone how not to assault me, we are not living in a perfect world. The fact that the Aziz Ansari incident was so commonplace for many women very clearly demonstrates that even when a man considers himself a female ally, a feminist, and woke to the modern realities of dating, he can still fall horribly short of acting that way. My suggestion is that while we teach men to be more sensitive to their partners we also teach women how to firmly (and safely) draw the line when they are not.
In an ideal world, yes. We want people to be equals in the bedroom, and that means equal responsibility. But I think how we socialize boys and girls in these ways complicated things a lot. You know, girls are taught to be pleasers and not hurt people’s feelings etc etc. And boys are taught to “take what they want” etc. It is changing of course, but in the meantime I think over-emphasizing the enthusiastic/ongoing consent angle to reduce harm is one thing we can do.
Yes absolutely I completely agree with that. It’s easy for me to say at 45, just tell him to stop, or get up and leave. I am far removed from 22 but I remember being in situations like that and having the same trouble speaking up. The thing is that the conversation around consent seems very one-sided. I fully agree with the approach that we teach men what enthusiastic consent looks like. But we need to address the other side of things. We need to teach women how to express their lack of consent firmly, verbally and unequivocally. I understand there are circumstances under which speaking up can be ill advised. But there are many where it is appropriate and required. We need to teach men to be more sensitive to their partners AND we need to teach women how to draw the line when they’re not.
My head has been swirling every day about this Aziz Ansari issue. The one concrete thought that keeps coming back to me is, that if men are expected to ask for (I forget exactly how they word it) consistent, on-going, enthusiastic consent, then shouldn’t we as women be responsible for voicing our lack of consent just as loudly and clearly?
I was talking to one of my cousins who recently got diagnosed with cancer. He’s not biologically my cousin, but his father was one of my dad’s best friends and we all grew up like family. We were talking about how isolating and scary it is. How unless they’ve been there, people really have no understanding of what you’re going through. It brought me back to when my father was ill. I just remember in the pit of my stomach feeling abject terror 24 hours a day. It was so lonely too. None of my friends understood what I was going through.
My cousin’s prognosis is good and I’m so grateful. He’s the first of our generation to get a diagnosis like this. It’s a reminder that we need to cherish every day we have. Life is short. Make it count.
My parents went there on vacation when we were kids (and left us with relatives). My mother always spoke so highly of it and has always said she wanted to go back. I never really thought about it as a vacation destination much, mostly because I don’t tend to vacation within the Caribbean, but I with all the beautiful pictures I’ve been seeing of it recently, I think I’d like to go.
Chris is up on the farm today fertilizing and planting seedlings. I’m supposed to be working on photography for my lookbook but so far all I’ve managed is a cup of coffee. It’s a rainy day. I honestly don’t know how you people get anything done in winter. That kind of weather just makes me want to cosy up and read a book. I have zero desires to be productive today.
I had the pleasure of working with II-Kaya Ises on a painting for her calendar project ‘Satta Amassagana’ a collaboration with various dope artists! 🎨✨
All proceeds from donations will be contributed directly to educational and humanitarian causes in Ethiopia, Jamaica, Trinidad, The U.S etc. ✊🏾
You know what I think is really cool about language (English in this case)? It’s the way you can express “I don’t know” without opening your mouth. All you have to do is hum a low note, a high note, then another lower note. The same goes for yes and no. Does anyone know what this is called?
These are called vocables, a form of non-lexical utterance – that is, wordlike sounds that aren’t strictly words, have flexible meaning depending on context, and reflect the speakers emotional reaction to the context rather than stating something specific. They also include uh-oh! (that’s not good!), uh-huh and mm-hmm (yes), uhn-uhn (no), huh? (what?), huh… (oh, I see…), hmmn… (I wonder… / maybe…), awww! (that’s cute!), aww… (darn it…), um? (excuse me; that doesn’t seem right?), ugh and guh (expressions of alarm, disgust, or sympathy toward somebody else’s displeasure or distress), etc.
Every natural human language has at least a few vocables in it, and filler words like “um” and “erm” are also part of this overall class of utterances. Technically “vocable” itself refers to a wider category of utterances, but these types of sounds are the ones most frequently being referred to, when the word is used.
Reblog if u just hummed all of these out loud as you read them
The other day I was washing my hands and another woman came out the stall a couple seconds after I did. She wasn’t cis, and a different woman waiting for someone to finish up looked angry and opened her mouth to say something. Before she could, I smiled real friendly a this woman who’s just trynna wash her hands and told her I loved her skirt, and we started talking clothes.
The waiting woman was still clearly pissed but she didn’t say anything because she knew I wouldn’t have her back. That’s all it took to keep some poor lady just trynna scrub up from getting harassed.
Sometimes doing the right thing is really hard and kinda scary. Other times all it takes is making it clear that you won’t support someone’s nastiness. It’s a little enough thing to do your part.
(Content warning for nudity, sorta – like the people are made of silver or of sand or whatever and they’re not super distinct but they’re naked)
WATCH THIS. Easily the best video I’ve seen in years. It’s not just the effects, but also the exuberance and the weird tension between the canny and uncanny. I LOVE IT.
(Track is Light It Up by Major Lazer featuring Nyla and Fuse ODG)
This is stunning in so many ways! I can literally feel the textures with my eyes
okay but that song bumps eh
I was pleasantly surprised with this video and could only think, “More eyes need this… More ears need this… Must share this…”
europeans: *throws bananas at black athletes and politicians in their countries*
europeans: you americans are so obsessed with race… so strange….
Britain: *harasses the fuck out prince harry’s gf meghan markle for being a biracial black woman despite being white passing*
Britain: right? I don’t get this whole “race” thing Americans got going on
Europeans: pissed off about immigration in their countries
Europeans: *colonized the whole FUCKING world*
Australians: *supports the ‘stop the boats campaign’. let’s one nation back in. closed refugee detention centres and displaced the people*
Australians: we’re so tolerant and multicultural. idk y america has such an issue with race.
Canadians: *experience a rise in hate crimes against Muslim Canadians. Forced indigenous peoples off their land and into the horrific residential school system. Has a higher incarceration rate for poc than white people.*
Canadians: we’re way better and more tolerant up here than America. Why can’t they just learn from us.
I was working on a wire bent necklace today and it broke THREE times. I’ve never had that happen before.
I sometimes wonder if it’s an energy thing. If it has to do with their energy. Or mine… I can’t say I was feeling negative about working on it though (sometimes things give trouble when I don’t want to work on it).
At any rate the last one broke in a place where I could salvage it. It just won’t have the heart at the end. Hahahaha I hate it when they want hearts at the end. Maybe that’s why that part broke off.
My head feels very buzzy lately, like it’s hard to focus my thoughts. I usually have a lot of stuff running around in my brain but it doesn’t feel like noise and chaos. This is weird.
I had a meeting yesterday. I’m going to be hiring a consultant to handle the business side of things for me for a while. Maybe six months maybe more. The goal is to expand the wholesale and retail side of my business. I don’t want to do markets anymore. It’s exhausting. And in the absence of having my own shop, I want to be able to just create and make stuff to order. I need a steadier stream of income than what I currently have.
I was just on AliExpress and a suggestion of Brazilian hair extensions came up (why I do not know) and I am shocked by how expensive that shit is. And that’s probably the cheap shit. Also, my immediate instinct when I see Black women on tv with long beautiful flowing hair is to think that they are taking really good care of their relaxed hair. It is only now starting to penetrate that they are wearing weaves.
Once and only once in my life did someone ever ask me if my hair was a weave. And the guy was a Trinidadian so he should have known better. I felt a combination of amused, insulted and proud.
I’m trying to catch up on Scandal and I’m just finding it a pain in the ass to watch, but I’ve invested in so many seasons that I feel obligated to watch until the show ends this year. It’s just a little too dramatic for me. Someone’s always getting kidnapped, framed, tortured, assassinated, ugh enough already.
However I DID catch up with How To Get Away With Murder today and that was a joy to watch. Yeah they have their drama too but I enjoy the suspense and the storyline much more. And I mean Viola Davis, come on.
If someone is really into you, you don’t have to keep begging them for a text, call, or to spend time. They’ll do it if you’re a priority.
When I was in school, one of my art teachers used to say “this world needs more creators. There’s more than enough destroyers in the world today.”
Just a reminder, if you create anything–art, writing, food, machines, ideas, equations, knits, tools, gardens–the world needs you.
This makes me happy.
Happy creating, everyone
Unless you’ve personally been there, I imagine it’s something that’s difficult to stretch you mind around. It’s a position you can’t picture yourself being in and believe me if you could – you wouldn’t want to. But some people live there… in that darkness… on that knife edge (if you can call that living). But has it ever occurred to you that the reason you can’t imagine suicide ever being a viable option… the reason you can’t wrap your mind around the idea of a person wanting to choose a solution as devastatingly final as ending their life is because you’ve never really considered the kind of hell someone has to go through to arrive at that conclusion? The way you see the world – with its intoxicating highs and terrible lows and its mediocre boring ‘most of the time’ – is not how everybody experiences it. Some people have only lows. You experience life as an ever spinning ferrous wheel of emotions, but some people are hopelessly stuck at the bottom far lower than you will ever go. You think it’s a selfish option because you see a loving family, friends and lovers who will miss you if you left. You see lists of things that make life worth living but some people see a list of things they feel they’ll never be able to escape.
You do not know how heavy a person’s burden is unless you’ve walked in those shoes, you do not know how dark the world looks to some people because you cannot see it with their eyes and that is why you cannot imagine a future so terrifyingly bleak and painful that you would do just about anything to get away from it; a pain so soul destroying you’d do anything not to feel it any more. You cannot know it, cannot imagine it unless you’ve been there… so don’t judge. It’s just that simple. You’re not required to fix it, you’re not even required to be supportive if you don’t want to… just be kind to people and don’t judge. If you lack the emotional depth to empathise with someone else’s pain, then at least keep your mouth closed and stop contributing to it.
I’m still in this weird place where I’m having a hard time getting into the swing of things workwise. Honestly it’s ok, January is always a slow month and December was exhausting so I think taking my time to get back into things is alright.
I have a meeting tomorrow with someone who may be able to act as a defacto business manager for me in terms of bringing in more clients and getting more of my product in stores. I’m just exhausted with that part of the business. I just want to make things.
A company that does subscription boxes contacted me wanting to feature my stuff. I need to hear more about it but it sounds cool.
soulsistrin 