Oh god, my 14 year is doing a camp this summer that teaches you how to make Rubes. He would prefer to spend the entire summer indoors, in the dark in his room on his computer, and isn’t thrilled about the 4 weeks we’re making them do camp.
But he’s also kind of a devious little fucker when you make him do shit he don’t wanna do, so – I dunno, I await the extreme chaotic household bullshit that results from the knowledge he gains in that camp. I’m sure I’ll live to regret signing him up, but I’m also sure he’s gonna make me laugh.
When I was 15/16 I was in an accident that left me with chronic pain and internal damage that meant pregnancy was highly unlikely for me. I’ve never wanted children. The reality of me probably being unable to have children never bothered me. It’s bothered everyone else though. People have cried more over my inability to have children than I have. No matter what I say no one will believe that I’m happy in my body regardless of its ability to produce children. They mourn my body like it belongs to them. As though my ability to have children has any affect on their life.
A few months ago I missed two periods in a row and took a pregnancy test that turned out to be a false positive. I went to Planned Parenthood to get a professional opinion and with the full intention of getting an abortion if it turned out that I was pregnant against all odds. There was no fear beyond the usual nervousness you experience at the prospect of a medical procedure. There was no emotional turmoil over my decision. I know what I want and it isn’t kids. The choice was an easy one for me.
When I finally opened up about my pregnancy scare to a few friends, all of them “good” feminist women, they were almost offended over how easy the decision was for me. “If you had been pregnant that may have been your only shot at a biological child. How could you just give that up without more thought?” One asked me. “So many women in your position would kill to be able to get pregnant and you were going to just throw it away?” Another one said to me.
I am not an incubator for other women’s hopes and dreams. If I ever do get pregnant I will not stay that way just because other people in my position would be grateful to have a chance at experiencing pregnancy/birth. I’m not interested in that. I never will be. I don’t want children.
If your idea of “my body my choice” only extends to certain people it’s bullshit. If you think certain women should be grateful for unwanted pregnancies just because any pregnancy for them was unlikely you’re disrespecting their choice. Stop treating women with fertility/reproductive health issues like we’re broken or should feel sad over our health when we tell you we don’t. Stop thinking we owe you “miracle babies” even when we don’t want children.
I am not an incubator for other women’s hopes and dreams
I am not an incubator for other women’s hopes and dreams
I am not an incubator for other women’s hopes and dreams
Working on something new… maybe a new botanical collection? These are fine silver made from metal clay. What do you think? What else would you like me to make? .
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Polishing my rings today. We’re gearing up for another @ttchatterbox market THIS SATURDAY at the Art Society of Trinidad and Tobago @artsocietytt. Take in an exhibition and shop for some local goods while your there! .
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“When we love ourselves especially deeply, we fill the void that we are often stuck waiting for others to fill instead. Your love is completely in your own hands.”
“One of Pagourtzis’ classmates who died in the attack, Shana Fisher, “had 4 months of problems from this boy,” her mother, Sadie Rodriguez, wrote in a private message to the Los Angeles Times on Facebook. “He kept making advances on her and she repeatedly told him no.”
Pagourtzis continued to get more aggressive, and she finally stood up to him and embarrassed him in class, Rodriguez said. “A week later he opens fire on everyone he didn’t like,” she wrote. “Shana being the first one.”“
I created a tutorial for my newest blog post! I know that people really enjoy seeing the process behind the jewelry making so please click over and have a look!
I know I am pmsing right now so I’m getting really easily annoyed by a lot of things, but when you give someone an address to come and pick up their order, does it not make sense to look for the house number? There’s two of them on the gate. It’s like people get to the street and that’s the end of the thought process.
I have a (potential) client on Etsy who is driving me crazy. She has asked me to alter one of my existing designs and has asked twice what the final length of the earring would be. It would be a custom made piece so I cannot tell her what the length is until I make it. I’ve assured her that I understand her requirements and will make the piece as small as possible extending maybe two more mm beyond the stone (which I have sent her pictures of next to a ruler) but she is like, obsessed with the final measurement. I don’t know how else to tell her I can’t measure something that I haven’t made yet.
She just emailed to say she likes the original design. I’m so confused.
She told me she wanted smaller crystals. I picked them out for her and sent her an image. She kept obsessing over the size because she said she wanted them as small as possible so I told her I would make the arc shorter. Then she says she likes the size of the arc in the original design. What???? So I just told her to tell me what length she wants the earrings because I can’t figure out what she wants.
Her response: Like the one in the picture, but as short as possible.
Am I being trolled here? Is there something I am missing? I’m about to pull out my hair.
Them: I like the original design with the stones that I have chosen I just wanted to know how much they could measure approximately.
Me: Ok so I can make the design, as it exists, with the stone you have chosen. I cannot tell you the final measurement until the earring has been made. So if you would like, tell me how long you would like the earring to be and I can make it according to your measurement. That would be the easiest solution.
Them: No more than 4cm
Me:
UPDATE: Client messaged me one more time to state that smaller is better but no more than 4cm.
The fact that immigrants can simultaneously steal all of our jobs AND steal all of our taxpayer money laying around being lazy means we should just hand the country over to them anyway because clearly they can multi-task better than anyone in the federal government.
In my experience, people are really bad at describing what they want. One of friends is a hair stylist and she says people come in all the time, saying “I want hair like X celeb,” and when she digs into what they really want, it is nothing like the celeb! Not to excuse it, I just think people maybe don’t think it through? Or have the right words? Anyway, I hope she figures her shit out, that is so frustrating!
I think part of the problem is that they are writing in Spanish and I am writing in English (Etsy does the translation). So I had to keep asking over and over exactly what it was they wanted and finally back them into a corner on the size. Saying “make it smaller” can have a lot of different interpretations.
I have a (potential) client on Etsy who is driving me crazy. She has asked me to alter one of my existing designs and has asked twice what the final length of the earring would be. It would be a custom made piece so I cannot tell her what the length is until I make it. I’ve assured her that I understand her requirements and will make the piece as small as possible extending maybe two more mm beyond the stone (which I have sent her pictures of next to a ruler) but she is like, obsessed with the final measurement. I don’t know how else to tell her I can’t measure something that I haven’t made yet.
She just emailed to say she likes the original design. I’m so confused.
She told me she wanted smaller crystals. I picked them out for her and sent her an image. She kept obsessing over the size because she said she wanted them as small as possible so I told her I would make the arc shorter. Then she says she likes the size of the arc in the original design. What???? So I just told her to tell me what length she wants the earrings because I can’t figure out what she wants.
Her response: Like the one in the picture, but as short as possible.
Am I being trolled here? Is there something I am missing? I’m about to pull out my hair.
Them: I like the original design with the stones that I have chosen I just wanted to know how much they could measure approximately.
Me: Ok so I can make the design, as it exists, with the stone you have chosen. I cannot tell you the final measurement until the earring has been made. So if you would like, tell me how long you would like the earring to be and I can make it according to your measurement. That would be the easiest solution.
I have a (potential) client on Etsy who is driving me crazy. She has asked me to alter one of my existing designs and has asked twice what the final length of the earring would be. It would be a custom made piece so I cannot tell her what the length is until I make it. I’ve assured her that I understand her requirements and will make the piece as small as possible extending maybe two more mm beyond the stone (which I have sent her pictures of next to a ruler) but she is like, obsessed with the final measurement. I don’t know how else to tell her I can’t measure something that I haven’t made yet.
She just emailed to say she likes the original design. I’m so confused.
She told me she wanted smaller crystals. I picked them out for her and sent her an image. She kept obsessing over the size because she said she wanted them as small as possible so I told her I would make the arc shorter. Then she says she likes the size of the arc in the original design. What???? So I just told her to tell me what length she wants the earrings because I can’t figure out what she wants.
Her response: Like the one in the picture, but as short as possible.
Am I being trolled here? Is there something I am missing? I’m about to pull out my hair.
Them: I like the original design with the stones that I have chosen I just wanted to know how much they could measure approximately.
Me: Ok so I can make the design, as it exists, with the stone you have chosen. I cannot tell you the final measurement until the earring has been made. So if you would like, tell me how long you would like the earring to be and I can make it according to your measurement. That would be the easiest solution.
I have a (potential) client on Etsy who is driving me crazy. She has asked me to alter one of my existing designs and has asked twice what the final length of the earring would be. It would be a custom made piece so I cannot tell her what the length is until I make it. I’ve assured her that I understand her requirements and will make the piece as small as possible extending maybe two more mm beyond the stone (which I have sent her pictures of next to a ruler) but she is like, obsessed with the final measurement. I don’t know how else to tell her I can’t measure something that I haven’t made yet.
She just emailed to say she likes the original design. I’m so confused.
She told me she wanted smaller crystals. I picked them out for her and sent her an image. She kept obsessing over the size because she said she wanted them as small as possible so I told her I would make the arc shorter. Then she says she likes the size of the arc in the original design. What???? So I just told her to tell me what length she wants the earrings because I can’t figure out what she wants.
Her response: Like the one in the picture, but as short as possible.
Am I being trolled here? Is there something I am missing? I’m about to pull out my hair.
I have a (potential) client on Etsy who is driving me crazy. She has asked me to alter one of my existing designs and has asked twice what the final length of the earring would be. It would be a custom made piece so I cannot tell her what the length is until I make it. I’ve assured her that I understand her requirements and will make the piece as small as possible extending maybe two more mm beyond the stone (which I have sent her pictures of next to a ruler) but she is like, obsessed with the final measurement. I don’t know how else to tell her I can’t measure something that I haven’t made yet.
She just emailed to say she likes the original design. I’m so confused.
She told me she wanted smaller crystals. I picked them out for her and sent her an image. She kept obsessing over the size because she said she wanted them as small as possible so I told her I would make the arc shorter. Then she says she likes the size of the arc in the original design. What???? So I just told her to tell me what length she wants the earrings because I can’t figure out what she wants.
I have a (potential) client on Etsy who is driving me crazy. She has asked me to alter one of my existing designs and has asked twice what the final length of the earring would be. It would be a custom made piece so I cannot tell her what the length is until I make it. I’ve assured her that I understand her requirements and will make the piece as small as possible extending maybe two more mm beyond the stone (which I have sent her pictures of next to a ruler) but she is like, obsessed with the final measurement. I don’t know how else to tell her I can’t measure something that I haven’t made yet.
I was filming some of my process today and shot a video of me fusing silver rings. Usually when you join metal you have to use solder (pron. saw-der) to join it together, but with argentium silver you can actually fuse silver to itself. It’s a higher grade than sterling, made from recycled silver and it’s amazing. It doesn’t tarnish when fired! Sterling turns black and has to be soaked in chemicals to get back to silver. So here’s me with my very old firing brick fusing two rings. I waved the torch around as it got hotter because the point where it goes from fusing to melting is milliseconds. I had just melted a ring right before this lol.
Guys these are so absolutely wonderful and there’s so many I wasn’t able to include so please go look at all her art for yourself these kitties are so lovely. Also because these prints are on the expensive side she has postcard versions which you can buy here. But ahhh these kitties are just so cute and I swear I’ve never felt happier looking at a piece of art.
Anyone else tired of the 3 guy 1 girl character setup in literally every movie ever?
It’s because at roughly that ratio is where men feel that men and women are represented equally.
There was a study done and when there was 1:1 male/female the male audiences felt as though there were more too many women. In general the men studied perceived things like 3 guys to 1 girl as more representative of the world.
That disgusts me.
There have also been studies in which it was found that men think women talk much more than they actually do – if they have to share equal air time with a woman they think they’re not getting a word in edgewise.
Imagine being so used to privilege and prioritization to think that the equal treatment of others is an unfairness to you.
Went to work on my laptop and my charger crapped out so it’s out of power. Thankfully I have a backup charger. Cause I realised this one was shit. Gonna go leave an Amazon review.
I was working on some rings today, photographing it to post a tutorial on my blog as well.
I was interrupted by a call from one of my best friends, the one who’s gonna be a first time Dad soon. I usually work through phone calls but I couldn’t this time we ended up blabbing for two and a half hours.
Now I’m just exhausted and hungry and nowhere near finishing these rings. I’m thinking it’s time to call it a day. I need sustenance.
Bummed I didn’t finish it but I’m can at least start my blog post. And hey it’s also great to catch up with one of my best buddies
I was dealing with some business crap with my bank for the past hour or so and I was ready to head into the studio when I remembered I didn’t have breakfast. When I’m ready to work I’m ready to work so now I’m all like aw fuck now I have to eat.
1. Be abusive: As well as physical abuse, this includes put-downs, sarcasm, negative and hurtful comments, deliberately withholding affection, stonewalling, refusing to talk, and repeatedly threatening to leave the relationship.
2. Be defensive: Individuals who are always on the defensive are so wrapped up in protecting themselves that they rarely grow in their relationships with others. They won’t admit that they have faults and so end up committing the same mistakes again and again. This eventually destroys the relationship.
3. Be critical: While there’s sometimes a place for the occasional remark, if you’re always complaining and pointing out their flaws then you’ll soon undermine your partner’s self-esteem. In all areas of life, a critical person is an unattractive person.
4. Be always right: If you’re always right, the other person’s always wrong – and who wants to feel that they have nothing to contribute, or their point of view is stupid, unwanted and wrong.
5. Be narcissistic and selfish: The person who always has to have their own way in life, or who’s only interested in their own needs and desires has little to add to a relationship.
6. Be dishonest: Trust is at the heart of all good relationships. If you can’t be real and honest, or are not dependable, then there’s no foundation for a strong relationship. This includes being unfaithful or hiding the whole truth.
7. Be superior: If you’re quick to judge others or to put people down, or you think that you are better than everybody else (more intelligent, prettier, cooler etc) then you’re setting yourself up for a lifetime of heartache. For although we all have strengths, and we may excel at times, each person is unique and is worthy of respect.
8. Be controlling: A relationship’s a gift. That person’s not your property. They’re allowed to be themselves, with their own views and beliefs. They don’t answer to you; and they don’t have to change themselves. They’re autonomous and free – and they’re not there to be controlled.
to get out of working on a lookbook I instead decided to bake bread. and make chocolate chip cookie dough. trying to think of what else I can come up with to avoid doing work. laundry! yessssss
I’m at this music performance thingy and the sitar player, a woman, was sitting on the ground. And one leg was crossed over in front of her under her skirts and I couldn’t figure out where her other leg was. Like unless she was sitting on it which I doubt, then I didn’t know where it was and it disturbed me to the point that I spent her entire three songs trying to figure it out. I decided maybe she didn’t have another leg. But she’d walked on stage. So I waited for the set to end but of course they dimmed the lights and then she was standing when they came back on and I’m just ready to conclude she was wearing a magic skirt or something. Or has really, REALLY short legs. Probably it’s that right?
Queen Hatshepsut of Ancient Egypt. She has a lovely smile for someone who’s been dead for thousands of years.
she wasn’t a queen. she was a pharaoh and wanted to be referred to as such. she even had her statues modeled after the male pharaoh’s statues to state her dominance and authority. she was actually one of the most successful pharaohs in all of ancient egyptian history and she reigned longer than any other woman in power in egypt.
damn no wonder she died and smiled for a trillion years afterwards
The fact that we know about her is marvelous.
the next Pharaoh after her Tuthmosis III tried to erase Hatshepsut out of history ,chiseled her name off her monuments ,covered the text on her obelisks with stone,knocked down and defaced her statues .
she was even left off the list of pharaohs ..talk about some patriarchy bullshit
her name was lost for a couple of millennia, her body was found in a unmarked grave in early twentieth century
sad part is in Egyptian belief is if your are forgotten in the living world you don’t exist in the afterlife,so he was trying to kill her even in death
My best friend throwing down some herstory. A+ commentary
She wore a fake beard, you guys. She was the fucking boss.
If we remember her now does that save her from an awful afterlife?
I’m just picturing the Kemetic afterlife. All the Pharaohs are hanging out in some kind of swanky club, drinking and congratulating each other on being bros.
The doors slam open and Hatshepsut strides in, glorious, robes swirling, rocking the fake beard and the insane amounts of wealth and power. “Miss me, bitches?”
Then she punches Tuthmosis III straight in the dick.
Reblog so Hatshepsut can dick punch tuthmosis in the afterlife.
I found out today that the girlfriend of one of my best friends is pregnant.
I’m super happy that he’s going to be a dad. He’s gonna be an amazing dad.
I don’t think this is the girl he should have ended up with. I don’t think he thought so either. But he’s going to make the best of it and stick with her. They’ll be getting married (largely so she can stay here she’s a foreigner).
I can’t believe he’s gonna be a dad. I’m so happy for him.
We’re at The Shop at the Hotel Normandie today! So many new vendors today. I bought myself this lovely little succulent arrangement to add to my growing studio collection 😍 There’s something for everyone. Come by!
Geode slice gold filled bracelets. Fresh out of the studio today! Trust me when I tell you that this picture does NOT do them justice. Come see them in person and pick one up for Mom (and maybe yourself!) tomorrow at The Shop at the Normandie Mother’s Day Pop Up @theshop_hotelnormandie .
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Pop up shop TOMORROW! All locally made products to choose from for your Mother’s Day gift! All of my products come packaged in a cloth gift bag and you can buy a handmade card there. We making it easy!
I think I need to take some time off from work. Even if it’s just one day. Maybe go down to the beach and take a swim. Cause I realise my head is way more jumbled than normal. Twice this week I had to ask myself if I took a shower (I had). Like, that’s not something I normally forget doing. I can’t remember if I brushed my teeth (also did). I’m so focused on work that I can’t even pay attention when I’m taking care of myself. I don’t think I’ve ever been this addled before.
Some of the most poisonous people come disguised as family and friends.
I was reading an article examining an interview with Georgina Chapman, Harvey Weinstein’s now estranged wife. She insists she knew nothing of his behaviour and that they had a happy marriage.
I don’t understand how she could not have heard something, anything. It was apparently an open secret in Hollywood. Not even a rumor? How can your husband be a known sexual predator for years toward so many high profile people and you knew nothing?
soulsistrin 