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Saying “no” can quite often put women in further danger. Men turn violent when they don’t get what they want very easily. Also trauma can cause people to freeze and be unable to do anything. Considering the only person responsible for a sexual assault is the one doing the assaulting, I’d say the thing is that women shouldn’t have to. It shouldn’t be my responsibility to teach someone how to not assault me.
Yes I’m fully aware of that. I did not feel that it was necessary to say women should say no in cases where it would put them in danger because I think we all understand that this happens. I am also aware that when confronted with situations such as these that women can freeze up. I addressed that in a response to my original post. My point is that while it should not be necessary to teach someone how not to assault me, we are not living in a perfect world. The fact that the Aziz Ansari incident was so commonplace for many women very clearly demonstrates that even when a man considers himself a female ally, a feminist, and woke to the modern realities of dating, he can still fall horribly short of acting that way. My suggestion is that while we teach men to be more sensitive to their partners we also teach women how to firmly (and safely) draw the line when they are not.
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